Pessimist Mildred and Optimist Mildred

Written by Kenia Morales


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Pessimist Mildred thinks I am not qualified to run this type of business therefore; I would fail terribly if I try.

Optimist Mildred Thinks I don’t have some ofrepparttar required skills but I can learn them by attending seminars, taking some courses, buying how to books etc. I know I can do anything I put my mind into.

Did you noticerepparttar 128864 difference? Pessimist Mildred can not see outside her cloud and keeps walking feeling sorry for her self. While optimist Mildred saw her shortcomings also but, came up with a solution torepparttar 128865 problem. Instead of moping around she decides to take action and makerepparttar 128866 necessary changes required and conquers her dream.

Now which Mildred do you want to be?

Think positive,

Kenia Morales

Kenia Morales is the publisher of online magazine http://kpatra.com "For Every Aspect of Today's Woman. Visit her site to find a variety of women related issues and topics" click here http://www.kpatra.com/keniascolumn.htm to find Kenia's little piece of heaven her inspirational column


The Importance of Laughter and Tears

Written by Dr. Margaret Paul


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Ron’s control had worked for him to a certain extent. He was financially successful. He had allrepparttar material things a person could want – a beautiful home, a vacation home, a boat, and allrepparttar 128861 electronics a person could ever use. He had a wonderful family, and he had good health, other than his pain. Yet he was often miserable.

The problem Ron was facing was that having control was far more important to him than being a loving person with himself and with others. As a result, Ron felt empty inside and was constantly looking to others to fill him up. He had no interest in taking responsibility for his own feelings – his own pain and joy. He wanted others or things to make him happy.

Imagine how a child would feel if you put him into a box and told him he could never laugh or cry. This is what was happening with Ron. His Inner Child – his feeling self – was in a box, not allowed to laugh or cry. Laughter and tears are our natural ways of releasing feelings. Withoutrepparttar 128862 God-given gifts of laughter and tears, our feelings get blocked up inside, eventually causing our muscles to go into painful spasms. This is what was causing Ron’s pain. He could no longer put a lid on his feelings without feeling physical pain.

It was a tough battle for Ron. At those moments when he let go of control and opened his heart to love,repparttar 128863 pain went away. But his terror of being rejected or controlled was generally more powerful than his desire to be loving with himself and others, and he would close up inrepparttar 128864 face of his fears. He feared that if he opened to his feelings, he would be weak and would be seen as weak, which he feared would lead to both rejection and engulfment.

Ron wanted something he could not have –repparttar 128865 illusion of safety that being so controlling gave to him, while not suffering fromrepparttar 128866 physical pain of being so controlling.

After much hard work, Ron finally saw that being loving to himself by letting himself experience his laughter and tears did not cause weakness, norrepparttar 128867 rejection and engulfment he feared. In fact, by being more aware of his feelings and allowing himself to express them, Ron learned that he actually felt safer and more powerful than when trying to control everything.

Laughter and tears are great gifts that allow us to release our feelings in healthy ways.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone Sessions Available.


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