Firstly, women should more pay more attention themselves. Do we love ourselves enough? Do we have a high level of self-esteem? Are we taking care of ourselves in same way we would take care of our partner? These acts of love to ourselves are essential to a healthy, loving relationship with our male partner. Women could also start paying clear attention to what it is that men like and need. Our man’s needs are certainly not being considered when we are busy with our girlfriends, beating up on every male in universe. Consider this:

Men like to feel encourages and appreciate for their efforts. Men like to feel recognized as very special in our lives. They would like to feel compassionate caring, and not one born out of neediness or excessive insecurity. They would like to feel loved.

Women are carers and givers of world and we can take lead and set a loving example to our male partners and our women friends. Many women just do not realise skills they have when it comes to relationships. We get very caught up with negative aspects of our male partners and sometimes forget about positive. Women are proactive, we can effect change if we learn how to handle and respond to certain situation. The following examples are based on some wonderful words of wisdom that I recently read in an on-line article by Nikki Katz. These ideas were a great inspiration and I share them with you now:

•Women have an outstanding capability to work as a team player and support everyone to keep things running proficiently. We, as women are good at creating a partnership with our men and therefore can further nurture and develop relationship.

•Women are great communicators. We are good listeners and extremely proficient at delivering our message to our men. When we are talking with men in our lives, we can be one who sets tone of conversation and we can create a safe arena for open communication.

•Women are creative, we can easily come up with ideas, solutions, and suggestions for many situations and if something does not work, we try something different. Men appreciate our creative abilities; they rely on us to create ideas to keep relationship happy and healthy.

•Women have an enormous capacity to empower and encourage ourselves and others around us. When we empower our men, we are letting him realise his ability. We can support our men to aspire to who they want to be, help ourselves realise our potential, and have our relationship progress into something amazing.

•Women have excellent nurturing skills; we know what someone needs, when they need it, and how to provide it to them. When we are nurturing relationship, we are lovingly caring for ourselves and our partner to progress and prosper with relationship.

•Women are tender human beings. We are naturally gentle, open and loving. Our relationships with our men need this type of cushioning against pressures in life. When we are caring and tender to our male partners, they will respond in kind.

•Women are vulnerable and know how to communicate their weaknesses. When we are feeling safe in our relationship, it is easy to be open up and reveal ourselves. Being vulnerable is a very effective thing to do for our relationships, because we are not closing off or getting defensive. We are holding out our hands and saying “Here I am.”

•Women have ability to be open with their feelings and thoughts. When we are being open and vulnerable, we are allowing ourselves to open up to someone else. When we are open, we create space for relationship to be wonderful. Opening our hearts and minds to our men allows him to be himself, feel accepted, and give us his best.

•As women, we are natural receivers. We may tend to think receiving is not as powerful as giving; yet receiving is giving, it is impossible to give to our men fully if we are unable to receive. Consider sexual act, whichever way we look at it, women are receivers, we receive our man into our bodies. A woman’s ability to receive is a wonderful gift, as it allows our man to give to us.

•Women are natural healers of world. We know how to soothe someone’s pain. When our man is hurting, we can help him heal by being tender, open and loving.

•Women’s intuition has been called a myth, however it is not. Women possess excellent intuitive skills. This is our sixth sense at work. We can use this special psychic ability to understand our men, and see what our relationship needs.

•When we rely on our intuition, it is easy to envision future – and when we envision future, we can have it happen. As women, we can see relationship as happy, romantic, passionate, loving, or as anything we want it to be.

These judgemental and critical attitudes have to stop. Women need to adopt an attitude of self-love and look deep into their own hearts and open up to loving men in their lives. Criticizing our male partners keeps us firmly entrenched as victims, and that is powerless and destructive. Is that what we want? Critical, negative and hurtful statements about our male partners enlarge emotional gap between men and women. Putting men in our lives down stirs up our angry, negative feelings and anger is a barrier to love and intimacy.

Finally; is being right or wrong in our relationships with men in our lives all that important? Love is more important than being right. Love means nothing when you choose negative attitudes and behaviours to being happy. Given a choice, wouldn’t we prefer love over being right? Love is only choice.

Do you want a life that is pre-programmed? Do you want to be stuck in a box that screams you must act and think this way and only this way? Is price of seemingly safe illusions worth prison you construct around yourself?

There is an inherent power in not knowing something. Within space of not knowing anything is possible. It is where life can happen without limitation.

Let me illustrate.

Many years ago, people of this world believed (and it was backed up by societies greatest thinkers/media) that world was flat as a pancake. If you sailed too far you would fall off earth’s edge into oblivion.

Many people accepted this as fact and made sure never to sail too far. They changed their behavior as a result of this knowing and thus cut themselves off from other possibilities.

Looking back at this we can see folly of their ways but point is not lost. What beliefs about our lives are we currently clinging to in order to feel safe about ourselves that limits our potentialities and possibilities?

Knowing and not knowing is a relationship that we manage. Isn’t there a great delight in learning something new? Well, in order to learn something new some part of you has to not know.

Learn to say, “I don’t know”. It gives you tremendous power to be open to other possibilities that you may not have considered before. It does not mean that you forgot all information that you have learned. It does not mean that you are stupid or incapable. What it does mean is that you are honest. Place knowing to side and remind yourself that what you know is such a small part of what really exists. When you don’t know you are left with excitement of discovery and adventure!

Newness exists everywhere you turn. If you think you know it all then newness is gone. Buried under desire to control, limit and appear smart.

If we begin to acknowledge and trust that we really don’t know and then we say, “I am going to find out for myself” then you have power. For then your experience informs you and experience is best teacher.

Knowledge is a structure that is built upon assumptions where only certain things can happen. Set yourself free from bonds of knowing and begin to embrace life moment-to-moment. Allow knowledge to come and go but do not to attach to any one belief. Allow thoughts to flow in your mind without any obstructions or impediments and pay attention to new ideas and thoughts.

”I don’t know” if a place where anything can happen.

Mr. Sheldon Ginsberg President of FitPath Health Services holds a Bachelors of Science in Exercise Science from State University of New York at Buffalo. In addition, he has obtained advanced certification as a Strength and Conditioning Coach from the National Strength and Conditioning Association and he is also a 12th level Reiki Master Teacher. To learn more you can visit www.thefitpath.com or call 786-276-6143.