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As an alternative, keep a daily journal of blessings you experience.
Whichever way you count your blessings, you'll gain perspective and be better able to resist making comparisons when you see how others are blessed.
Tips 3, 4 and 5 can be used in moment when you begin to compare yourself with someone else.
TIP 3. EXHALE.
It's amazing how a timely exhale can create space for serenity and perspective.
Start by bringing your attention to your breathing, at your belly. Don't try to manipulate your breath. Just notice it, following in-breath and out-breath through several cycles. Then, on an out-breath, let thoughts of comparison leave your body.
Once you've blown comparison away, you might ask yourself, "Is this where I want to put my energy today?"
TIP 4. ACKNOWLEDGE LOSSES.
When you find yourself making a comparison, notice whether other person's success is reminding you of a hope or dream you have set aside. If so, be kind to yourself, and take time to recognized your loss.
TIP 5. SHIFT INTO GRATITUDE.
Try this tip now. Sit back comfortably. Think back to a time when you were feeling pull of comparison trap. Now, try shifting to a perspective of gratitude. Once you make shift, notice how you feel.
Gratitude is tremendous empowering. Shifting easily into gratitude may take a few tries, but it's a skill well worth cultivating.
YOU, YOUR FAMILY AND YOUR CAREER ARE UNIQUE. As you learn to focus more and more on your own life with calm, loving attention, you can leave comparison trap far behind.
(c) 2004 Norma Schmidt, Coach, LLC
Norma Schmidt, Coach, LLC, specializes in helping women who are both professionals and parents to create balance. She draws on her experience as a parent, pastor, cancer center chaplain and writer. She edits "The Balance Point," a free bi-weekly e-zine, and offers free sample coaching sessions. Visit http://www.NormaSchmidt.com.