Overcoming Fears of Intimacy

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

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The part of Sam that believed that he wasn’t good enough is his wounded self. The basis ofrepparttar wounded self in all of us is our core shame false belief –repparttar 145385 belief that we are inherently flawed. Our wounded self does not know that we are a perfect child of God, an individual expression ofrepparttar 145386 Divine. Becauserepparttar 145387 wounded self operates out of false beliefs rather than fromrepparttar 145388 truth of who we really are, it wants to control how people feel about us. Sam needed to develop a loving Adult part of himself – a part of himself connected to a spiritual Source of love and truth – in order to heal his core shame.

The Six Step Inner Bonding process is a profound process for developingrepparttar 145389 loving Adult and for healingrepparttar 145390 fears and limiting beliefs ofrepparttar 145391 wounded self. As Sam started to practice Inner Bonding, he slowly developed an Adult self who loved and valued his core Self, his true essence. As he developed this inner sense of personal power, he lost his fear of rejection. He saw that if a woman rejected him, it was because of her fears rather than because of his inadequacy or unlovability. Because he stopped taking rejection personally, he stopped fearing it.

Once he stopped fearing rejection, he stopped giving himself up in his attempt to control how a woman felt about him. Once he stopped giving himself up, he stopped feel trapped and engulfed in a relationship.

Over time, by consistently practicingrepparttar 145392 Six Steps of Inner Bonding, Sam developed a powerful inner loving Adult self and healed his fears of rejection and engulfment. Sam is now happily married with a child onrepparttar 145393 way.

This did not happen quickly. It took Sam time to heal his false beliefs about his own adequacy and lovability. It took time to develop a personal relationship with a spiritual Source of love and truth. It took time to be in truth with a woman rather than being “nice” to try to control how she felt about him. It took time for him to feel safe in being himself. It took a couple of years of devoted inner work.

But if you were to ask Sam if allrepparttar 145394 time it took was worth it, he would look at you with shining eyes and a huge grin and you would feelrepparttar 145395 joy within him. You would have no doubt that it was worth whatever time it took.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com.

Procrastination: Make It Work FOR You!

Written by Kathy Gulrich

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2 - Paint in your head

Tom, my very wise watercolor instructor, suggests I put a painting I'm working on somewhere I'll often pass by it ... and just think about how I'd continue painting it. No brushes, no water. Just looking ... appreciating ... planning ... imagining. “Just paint in your head,” he said with a smile.

I was a little skeptical (sorry, Tom) ... but it worked. Not only did I find creative solutions for my paintings, I found that when I picked up my brushes again, I was much faster and more efficient than I could possibly have been before.

Is this procrastinating? If so, I'll be doing more of it - and suggest you do, too. Every now and then, step back and make surerepparttar project you're working on still makes sense to you ... and that you're creating itrepparttar 145384 way you like. ‘Paint in your head' for as long as it takes. Then, when it feels right, go full steam ahead.

3 - Do something. Anything!

Ever have a goal that was so challenging you were overwhelmed by it? Didn't even know where to start? Maybe felt a little ... uh ... procrastination setting in?

Put your attention on anything you can do that supports your goal, and do it - immediately. Find something else you can do - and do it. Again. And again. Just keep taking tiny steps. Do whatever you can do, whenever and however you can do it. You'll not only move from procrastination into action, you'll eventually reach your goal. After all, isn't that what it's all about?

Best-selling author and coach Kathy Gulrich helps clients get from 'idea' to 'action' to 'results' more quickly, and more easily - whether they're looking to write a book, develop a new product, or market their product or business.

In a nutshell,Kathy is all about taking action - and getting exceptional results. Learn more at http://www.smARTbusinessCoaching.com

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