So you have dealt with problem on a conscious level, very good! But what do you intend doing about what is happening in your sub-conscious? Are you even aware of stuff that is in your sub conscious which is left for you to understand and handle as a remainder of your experiences?

At this point I will take opportunity to remind you that I come from a very technical and scientific background. In this field, if there is something which cannot be proven logically and rationally we normally assume that it does not exist. I know this is a wrong approach which only ever leaves us with a very limited view of things. Is this really what science is supposed to be about? I thought science was supposed to be about exploration and enquiry into unknown without applying judgment from our human rational mind! On that note, how open minded was your therapist when working with you?

When growing up as a child, constantly seeing and hearing things in front of your eyes gradually builds up your perception in your mind until it becomes what is ‘normal’ to you on a conscious level. This is how you slowly program yourself and your association to life to things according to what you see and understand from that age and up.

Where do we store un-necessary residue which is left behind from past experiences? The sub-conscious is next level of consciousness which is programmed. The sub conscious becomes next level of deep memory storage which is also engraved according to our understanding of life and our understanding of who we are. If we have passed through tough experiences then we might have a personality which will begin to develop with low self-esteem, perhaps no self-confidence and trusting no-one in process. How many of us are living at moment with this dilemma in our lives? I’ll bet there are many more than you could ever imagine!

So what is real problem here? Your sub-conscious will always trigger a reaction to events which occur in your life. Whenever something happens which is familiar to a past experience it will trigger a feeling, memory or a behavioral pattern which was created by you earlier as your way of handling your past experiences. This happens when it is least expected and it becomes normal to you as a being a part of your own built-in personality that you will probably not even see it as being a problem!

This is all very well and you could argue that there is nothing wrong with this because this is YOU and who you have grown to become after what you have experienced in past. This is true to an extent, however, in reality you do not have to make do with what you are familiar with because it is easier than handling and accepting truth of your misery. This is always just an excuse we make to take easy way out of dealing with our problems! We can all be whoever we would like to be and it is unfortunate that in reality many people do choose not to handle their experiences for fear of loosing their identity.

This is a huge mistake we have been making as a human race. When we realize that we can potentially be whoever we would like to be then we would probably be able to handle our experiences much better and without being sub-consciously programmed to act in ways which are not healthy for ourselves, just because we are afraid of losing what has become comfortable for us! Denying fact that sub-conscious exists and disregarding fact that it is a huge part of your experience which greatly influences how you will handle your experiences now and in future will eventually be your worst enemy in life if you do not deal with it properly.

If science was to change somewhat and become more open to new ideas instead of insisting upon following old theories which were proven long time ago and accepted existence of our sub-consciousness, just imagine how many mental illnesses or other types of illnesses could be solved. What are we afraid of losing by exploring new dimensions in our life?

We are becoming more and more lost by assuming all aspects of human misery can be handled and treated same way. If old theories, anti-depressants and sleeping pills were so good and effective then why are we all still having so many of same problems? We are, as individuals, unique and very different from each other and we should be treated accordingly, instead of being categorized according to ‘theories’. If we were to begin understanding this concept and embraced things we are afraid to embrace new ideas which are out-with concepts we have grown to feel comfortable with, then we would maybe begin to understand more mysterious aspects of life and perhaps we would enjoy that way!

Some children, whose parents were shut down or abusive, manage to stay connected with their core Selves through contact with animals such as dogs or horses, while others stay connected through contact with relatives or friends with whom they identify. But many young children just disconnect to survive. When in this disconnected state, if they watch violence on TV or practice violence through video games, they may further train themselves to numb out against compassion, empathy, and pain of harming others.

Likewise, if children grow up with no personal connection with a source of spiritual guidance, they may not know that we are all one, and they may not consider possibility that consequences of their actions may follow them into their lives after death.

Without connection with their core Self and their spiritual guidance, they are left with only their wounded selves. If they happen to be operating from an enraged wounded self, this self can certainly act out in angry and violent ways. With no loving inner Adult to set limits, harm to themselves or others can be disastrous, as we have seen.

While limiting guns is certainly a good thing to do, it will not stop violence. This violence will not stop until we no longer need to learn, as very young children, to barricade our hearts. As parents and teachers we need to be practicing a healing process such as Inner Bonding so that we can reclaim our core Selves and our deep connection with God. Only by doing our own inner work will we be able to be loving role models that our children need. The change in our society must come from within each of us.