BE AWARE: The first step in dealing with anything is simply to become aware of problem. Start paying attention to mental and emotional clutter that fills your head. Tune into your self-talk, your old tapes, your worries. The more you notice them, easier it is to change them - or just get rid of them.

LIVE IN THE NOW: Look at those negative emotions and old tapes you're carrying around from past, and let them go. That was then, and this is now. You have grown, and times and situations are different. And notice what you're worrying about. How likely is that to happen - really? Instead of wasting your time and energy worrying about future, start planning for it. Remember, today is tomorrow you worried about yesterday.

IGNORE: Those little voices in your head (Gremlins) are going to be with you rest of your life. If you engage in an argument with them, you will usually lose. Instead notice them, then simply ignore what they are saying. Banish them to another room. Take a walk to clear your head and focus on now.

SET GOALS: If you have well thought out, clearly written goals for your week/year/life, you'll have a much easier time knowing what to do each day. You'll stay focused and on purpose. It will also be easier to . . .

CHOOSE: Start to make conscious choices about what you put on that To Do list, about projects you start, commitments you make. Learn to say "No," not just to others, but also to yourself. If you're not passionate about something, or if it won't serve your goals and your purpose, don't let it in your life.

ELIMINATE: Finally, what can you let go of? What are you doing/thinking/feeling that isn't serving you? Pare your life and your commitments down to manageable levels. I'm not suggesting you quit your job, get a divorce, and move to Tahiti. But do you really need to be on two committees, HOA board, and softball team? Do you really need to volunteer for overtime at work? The world won't stop if you let a few things slide.

If you follow those six life changing steps, you'll eliminate 85% of internal clutter in your life. (A life without some clutter simply isn't possible. We're human.) You'll be more focused and less hurried, more confident and less worried. You'll have more time and energy. Just imagine how great your life will be then!

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Copyright 2005 Lynn Cutts

It's going to be hard at first. Many times you'll want to say something or crush someone for being such a...well you know! But with time you'll slowly see that biting your tongue and not saying something will end up you being bigger man or women! Change doesn't happen overnight. Good Luck!