So how do you stop being like that? First thing to do is to recognise when you are making these assumptions and when they are patently false, and put some kind of system in place to prevent yourself from getting caught up in negative cycle. One useful technique is Emotional Release technique taught in Sedona Method where you can quicly overcome obsessive nature that can sometimes come from error. Another way is to understand why you have schemas you do and to change them: often they are out of date and are not actually helpful (as they are supposed to be). They are also linked to 'gremlins' (if you're British you might know term from recent spate of adverts on TV advertising education) - but that's a future article. Fundamentally though, to overcome harmful errors, it is all about understanding when you make them and stopping them spiral out of control.

I ended up turning up my assignment a day late. Even though; I felt I could have done a better job I still managed to get a satisfactory grade. But, even if I would have failed class I would have jus repeated it on next semester. What happened was that once I understood that this situation was beyond my control I let it go. My girls did not plan to get sick on that specific date and I was not expecting it either. Neither my daughters nor I deserved stress of me trying to manage my final and their sickness at once. By devoting my complete time to them I was able to reduce my stress level and be there for them when they needed it most.

Some circumstances will require that you let go for more than one day, for months or even longer. But, they should not be reason for letting your dreams go completely. So, when you find yourself in difficult situations ask yourself if it is possible to maintain your sanity when performing so many tasks or is it simply time to let go?

Do not loose your mind,

Kenia Morales