How do you develop your intuition? Professional Intuition Coach, Nancy R. Fenn (www.bemyguide.net), offers following beginning exercises:

·When phone rings, guess who’s calling before you pick up phone. ·If a tool or article is missing, let it “come to you” while you go on about your business. ·Before you get mail, decide on at least one item that will be in mail. ·Guess what time your spouse, child or roommate will walk in door. ·At any given time during day, relax and try to guess exactly what time it is without looking at your watch or a clock.

Here’s an exercise from Nancy: “Think of a problem you’re having that you’d like guidance on. Stand perfectly still and see what changes first in your environment, i.e., dog barks, curtains blow in wind, ambulance goes by, baby laughs, leaf falls to ground, bird fly overhead to left. Interpret this event symbolically as answer to question.”

What an exercise like this does, is force you to still logical, rational and very limited neocortex, so other parts of your brain can work.

Work with an intuition or EQ coach to develop your intuition. People who’ve developed theirs say they know it’s intuition because they feel absolutely sure. What a great feeling!

Perhaps you need more time or emotional growth before you consider making a long-term commitment.

If you'd like to deal with past relationship feelings, I have an article on this at http://www.consum-mate.com/02jul.htm.

If you are unsure if you are relationship ready, check out my article on this at http://www.consum-mate.com/03jun.htm

If lack of self-awareness is an issue, check out http://www.consum-mate.com/02aug.htm

Greater self-knowledge will help you to overcome this block to building a lasting and satisfying relationship.

The second issue is inability to make a commitment to a PARTICULAR relationship. This may not be right one. Perhaps there is a sense of this but it is written off to being a "commitment -phobe" in general.

Focus on true level of involvement with each other. Is there a genuine connection? Or is there a vague feeling of something missing? Evaluate quality of your intimate relating. This does not mean how often (or even how good) sex is. This is about how open, sharing and real you are in your interactions with each other.

Does any of this sound familiar?

It seems like we are only killing time? He/she doesn't seem to want what I want. We seem to be off and on in our level of contact/affection. I hey are still not over a past relationship. I hey just don't seem to know what I hey want.

Remember to focus on involvement or lack thereof between you. If either person is disengaged in any way, it's time to address real issue of; "Is this right relationship for us?"

Exploring your ability to make a lasting commitment should be a first step in your plan for building a healthy and lasting relationship.