Written by Michael Angier

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I made a conscious attempt to focus on my strengths: my talents, my experience and my knowledge. I didn't allow myself to indulge in negative thoughts. When I found myself musing about something less than "uplifting", I would redirect myself to something else. I gave myself no permission to have "pity parties."

I took to heart Thomas Carlyle's advice when he wrote, "Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what clearly lies at hand." I kept busy. I did what appeared to me as needing doing. I didn't know exactly what I wanted to do or how I was going to do it. The future was uncertain and forrepparttar first time in my life I didn't have a plan. Likerepparttar 126360 AA program, I took one day at a time.

And each day I did what I could to clean up my messes, make things better, keep my focus forward instead of backward and keeprepparttar 126361 faith.

It was my faith in Universal Spirit that helped me get through this winter of discontent. I believe that everyone has a unique purpose and I was determined to discover my own. God doesn't make junk.

One ofrepparttar 126362 biggest awareness' I had during these dark times was that I WAS NOT my feelings. I HAD feelings, but they were not me. I also realized that I had cared too much aboutrepparttar 126363 opinions of others. I still care; I just don't let it run me like it used to.

Some people believe that if you feel good about yourself, you'll do great things. That may be true, but I also believe that if you do great things, you'll feel good about yourself--and then do even greater things.

Taking these steps consistently over a period of years has enabled me to rebuild my finances, establish a career I'm excited about, develop a loving and committed marriage and, most importantly, restore and improve upon my self esteem. I'm grateful forrepparttar 126364 process.

Self-esteem is an upward or downward spiral. What you do affectsrepparttar 126365 way you feel. How you feel affectsrepparttar 126366 things you do. The things you do affect what you and others think of you, which in turn, affects how you feel about yourself.

You're either building yourself up or tearing yourself down. There is no status quo when it comes to your self-image.

Michael Angier. www.SuccessNet.org Win-Win Way, PO Box 2048 South Burlington, Vermont 05407-2048 USA success@SuccessNet.org


Written by Oscar Bruce

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I 'LL BET YOUR'VE NEVER HAD THIS EXPERIENCE... Someone introduces themselves to you. Then you tell them your name. Suddenly you realize you can not recall their name. Why does this happen so often? Simple, you didn't forget their name - you never really heard it inrepparttar first place! You still had yourself inrepparttar 126359 middle ofrepparttar 126360 picture.

Most people do not listen withrepparttar 126361 intent to understand - they listen withrepparttar 126362 intent to reply or impress. This is never successful becauserepparttar 126363 mind does not have simultaneous capability. Therefore, if you are contemplating your next statement, you are not focusing on his words, tones and actions.

In order to read a person like a book, you must get them to open up, get them talking. Getting people to open up is a skill that you can learn.

A skilled conversationalist uses specific question in three different categories.

(1) Conversation starters. (2) Personal questions. (3) Philosophical questions).

Once you've mastered a small inventory of optional question you can switch categories to controlrepparttar 126364 outcome.

He who does not askrepparttar 126365 right questions always hearsrepparttar 126366 wrong answers.

An unclear question has an infinite number of possible answers.

Many say that information isrepparttar 126367 path to power. The wealthiest people will tell you that it's their ability to make wise choices in dealing with people that is their greatest asset. And that when they did make mistakes, it was often disastrous for them socially and financially.

If you like to lean to "read people like a book" and upgrade your personal communications subscribe to Oscar Bruce's FREE NEWSLETTER. Visit his web site at http://www.oscarbruce.com For Questions or Comments email him at ( oscar1@moment.net )

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