Relationships involve sharing. This means mutual trust, honesty, respect and appreciation. This can be a time when we try to correct or move on from relationships that have grown unsatisfying because they are too one sided. If everything in a relationship (especially a friendship or a romantic partner) is only going your partner's way, then there is no longer any room for growth for you! If this is case you are actually not in a "relationship" any more. Without balance between two people there is no basis for any closeness.

This isn’t often verbalized, but when you love another person, you must also love yourself at same time. Ideally there would exist a two-way flow of love and communication between you. It is a very unbalanced situation if you are emotionally involved with a person who does not return your feelings or who is unkind to you. Persisting in such situations is not loving to self, and so these sorts of “relationships” are very unhealthy. In spirit of Libra perhaps unhealthy and unbalanced mean same thing. Libra also rules fairness and negotiations. We can learn how to deal tactfully with others in tricky situations. Win/lose is not Libra. Libra is strictly win-win. This is a great time for cooperative efforts. Instead of being threatened by a differing viewpoint we should strive to be willing to listen and to even validate those different from us. We don't have to agree but we may learn something from hearing a differing viewpoint and just allowing it to exist. If you have never tried stepping back and giving other people this kind of space, space to disagree with you, you may actually find taking this challenge a very rewarding experience. You may learn that just because other people do not agree with you doesn’t make you or other individual “wrong”, just different! From this perspective relationships with others become much less threatening. Other people have a right to be different from us, and we also have a right to our own uniqueness! We are not forced to agree with others, just to validate them.

In terms of big picture, I see that differences among people can serve a vital function. If many issues in life only went one way there could be no justice or balance (a Libra theme). Allowing individual differences a place to exist and be heard serves world by creating natural "checks and balances" within life. Hearing and considering different viewpoints helps society come up with objective and fair decisions. We can even see this in physical body. Just as smooth and coordinated movements require interplay of opposing muscle groups to coordinate movement, so too, balance in life comes from give and take and corrective influence of opposing viewpoints. Although differences in opinions may seem like an imbalance to you personally, in very large overall picture they create balance and opportunity for compromise and harmony. When seen this way, there are no completely "wrong" or "right " approaches to most issues, and everybody's input and opinion is a valid one, even if you disagree with it

Libra's influence is also a great time to think of things artistic, harmonious and beautifying. You could set a goal to beautify your home, your environment at work, and even yourself. This is a time to listen to beautiful music, go to an art museum or cultivate these artistic abilities within yourself.

Libra is an intellectual sign as are all air signs. Unlike its opposite sign, Aries, Libra's influence is never impulsive. This month it is our opportunity to thinks things through carefully before acting. Like it's symbol, scales, Libra enables us to weigh pros and cons of any problem or situation and come up with fair and balanced solutions.

I wish you all a month of balance and harmony.

The next new moon will be in sign of Scorpio on November 12 at 9:28 am. eastern standard time.

Come visit me then at Zodiacart.com or a few days before for more New Moon Reflections.

Ronni Lynn has practiced astrology for over 30 years. She is interested in the psychological and spiritual effects that planetary influences have on us. She uses astrology as a tool to help others evolve and develop their "higher selves".

You have chosen to experience excitement, joy, challenges of being physical for a while. It’s all supposed to be fun!

Your soul knew that when you incarnated–this time, and all of many other times you incarnated into a human body.

This human life of yours is a glorious adventure in remembering and exercising your divinity. In remembering and exercising great creative powers you all possess, as glorious goddesses and gods you are, albeit in human form for now.

Which brings us to our point here for today.

You did not choose to be human so you could just lay around doing nothing for 50 or 100 years. You chose to be human so you could immerse yourselves in challenges and contrasts of human life. And so you could have fun and find joy in process.

Life on earth is a magnificent opportunity for you, as your souls see it, to flex your creative muscles, as it were.

And in doing so, you are adding your energies, your unique creative powers to expanding Universe. The Universe–and you–are always expanding and growing. Every thought you think, every action you take has a ripple effect. And you thereby touch all that is, even unto farthest reaches of Universe.

You are far from powerless. You are powerful far beyond your wildest imaginings and dreams.

And so every experience, every challenge you face in your human lives is a great opportunity for you to grow and remember who you truly are. Even those experiences your human mind considers tragic are opportunities for you grow and remember.

You are human and spiritual at same time. Being fully human, in every moment of your earthly lives, enables you to be fully spiritual in every moment of your eternal lives.

The two–the human you and spiritual you–are eternally one. To be fully human does not make you less spiritual. To be fully spiritual does not make you less human.

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Since 1992, John Cali has been communicating with a spirit called Joseph. In one of his many physical lifetimes, this spirit was incarnated as the legendary Chief Joseph of the Nez Perce tribe in what is now Oregon.