Transhumanists embrace these techniques and many more as a desirable progression toward utilizing technology as a tool for human improvement. They envision a time when we can eliminate disease, enhance memory, develop superior senses, and create physical bodies resistant to aging.

This build-a-better-human view isn't universally accepted, but it's important to look at how our ideas of "improvement" have changed over years. Eyeglasses were once viewed as an unnecessary and unwelcome manipulation of our God-given eyesight. The current hot topics such as stem- cell research will one day elicit same yawns with which we greet news of eyebrow lifts or fertility drug-induced twins.

What does it mean to go beyond human? As long as humans are in charge, is it possible to do anything that might be considered beyond realm of human potential? Is there a need for ethical controls or legal restrictions if advances in science are seen as desired result of natural human achievement? Is all fair in love and war--and science? We love ethical debates about nature of nature. Instead of focusing on a particular new-fangled technique, we'd do well to frame our rejection or acceptance of transhumanism in terms of bigger picture--is technology a natural part of human evolution? Do we have a responsibility to use science as a tool to improve human experience- including human body? I'm always open to improving, and that goes for my definition of excellence. If we can develop superhuman brains and bodies, can we also look forward to tremendous gains in creativity and compassion? Transhumanists get us thinking about potential for humanity over long haul. Now that's excellent.

Knowing if this is right person for you does not happen instantly. It takes months to discover whether or not a person is who they say they are. You cannot really know who a person is until you have conflict and find out what this person does in conflict. Some people can appear very open and loving until a conflict comes up and then they get angry, withdraw, resist or comply, closing down rather than staying open to learning about themselves and other person. An important question is, how does this person deal with conflict and how long does it take them to open up if they do close in face of conflict?

Since none of us enter relationships fully healed, it is very important to know that your partner is willing to explore conflict rather than just protect against it with controlling behavior. Conflict occurs in all relationships, and if both people are not open to learning about themselves and each other within conflict, unresolved conflicts will eventually destroy relationship.

If you are a person who is open to learning and wants a relationship in order to share love, there are three essential ingredients that need to be present for person to be right person for you:

1. There needs to be a basic spark of attraction. If you do not feel physically attracted to this person within first six months of relationship, chances are this attraction will not develop. It does not need to be instant, but it does need to be there at some point.

2. Both of you need to be capable of caring, compassion, and empathy - to be a giver rather than just a taker. If this person just wants what they want and doesn’t care about what you want, they are not right person for you. If you just want what you want and you don’t care about what other person wants or feels, you are not ready for a relationship.

3. Both people need to be open to learning in conflict rather than just wanting to win and be right. If both people are open to learning in conflict, conflicts will be resolved in loving ways, but power struggles will result if one or both of you are intent on controlling and winning.

Other ingredients, such as common interests and values, are also important, but without above three ingredients, they will not sustain relationship.