Mobbing Is Emotional Abuse

Written by Gail Pursell Elliott

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When a person is treated like an object, there isrepparttar tendency to see others that way also. The target of a mobbing or bullying isn’t viewed as a person, but rather as a ‘sort of a person.’ Certainly not as much of a person as someonerepparttar 132679 perpetrator knows well or with whom they share caring feelings.

What happens to school bullies and mobbers when they grow up and become workers? Do they stop that behavior, if it was successful for them, just because they are grown up and ‘big people’ now? No. They often turn to subtlety, because overt bullying behavior can be construed as harassment.

Insight and awareness play a major role in change. So many people engage in this type of behavior without thinking. Prevention includes paying attention not only to what we’re doing but also to what is going on around us. Most people don’t intentionally abuse someone. When Swedish researchers explained to co-workers what had happened torepparttar 132680 individual as a result of their actions, they were appalled that they could have participated in anything that would have damaged another human being to that extent.

We pay attention torepparttar 132681 big stories that are showcased inrepparttar 132682 media. Our lives are full of little stories that are never broadcast. We don’t hear aboutrepparttar 132683 child who is afraid to riderepparttar 132684 school bus because no one will sit with them or because of what others say to them. We don’t hear aboutrepparttar 132685 worker who dreads going to work and suffers from nightmares because ofrepparttar 132686 work environment. We don’t hear aboutrepparttar 132687 people who are so distracted by this type of behavior being directed at them that they are involved in an auto accident. We don’t hear about divorces or other forms of personal suffering. Just because a person hasn’t been ‘beaten up’ doesn’t mean that they haven’t been beaten up inside.

Here’s an example of how insight and awareness can make a difference. A woman had readrepparttar 132688 mobbing book and was telling someone about it. These two attended an aerobics class together. There was a relatively new member ofrepparttar 132689 class who was rather uncoordinated and as a result was throwing everyone off of their rhythm. Although she was friendly,repparttar 132690 other class members talked about her, made fun of her behind her back and wished she’d just drop out and leave. Suddenly one ofrepparttar 132691 two chatting about mobbing said, “‘Oh my goodness! Are we mobbing this woman??”

It was a revelation. They decided to get to knowrepparttar 132692 woman better. They found that she was an intelligent, professional person who did a lot of good work with teens. They found that when they looked past her loud voice and her uncoordinated movements that she was a person who they could like and respect. That’s whatrepparttar 132693 word respect means as I interpret it. To ‘look again.’

The woman is still inrepparttar 132694 class. She stands inrepparttar 132695 back row. Andrepparttar 132696 others have stopped their mobbing behavior simply because they became aware of what they were doing, andrepparttar 132697 implications and potential result of their actions. Most of us choose to believe that we are basically good human beings. And we’re right. The more aware we become ofrepparttar 132698 fact that others are good human beings also, worthy and entitled to be treated with dignity and respect without exception,repparttar 132699 closer we will be to recreating our world and helping to heal it. Awareness isrepparttar 132700 key.

Gail Pursell Elliott, speaker, author, educator, human resources and training consultant, is the founder of Innovations “Training with a Can-Do Attitude” TM , promoting dignity and respect, no exceptions, in companies and communities nationwide. Gail is co-author of the book Mobbing: Emotional Abuse In The American Workplace, as well as the author of training, motivation, inspirational materials, and poetry. Website:

Workaholism, Leisure and Pleasure - Part I

Written by Sam Vaknin

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Facsimile messages, electronic mail, other forms of digital data,repparttar Internet - broke not only physical barriers but also temporal ones. Today, virtual offices are not only spatially virtual - but also temporally so. This means that workers can collaborate not only across continents but also across time zones. They can leave their work for someone else to continue in an electronic mailbox, for instance.

These technological advances precipitatedrepparttar 132677 transmutation ofrepparttar 132678 very concepts of "work" and "workplace". The three Aristotelian dramatic unities no longer applied. Work could be performed in different places, not simultaneously, by workers who worked part time whenever it suited them best.

Flextime and work from home replaced commuting (much more so inrepparttar 132679 Anglo-Saxon countries, but they have always beenrepparttar 132680 harbingers of change). This fitted squarely intorepparttar 132681 social fragmentation which characterizes today's world:repparttar 132682 disintegration of previously cohesive social structures, such asrepparttar 132683 nuclear (not to mentionrepparttar 132684 extended) family.

All this was neatly wrapped inrepparttar 132685 ideology of individualism, presented as a private case of capitalism and liberalism. People were encouraged to feel and behave as distinct, autonomous units. The perception of individuals as islands replacedrepparttar 132686 former perception of humans as cells in an organism.

This trend was coupled with - and enhanced by - unprecedented successive multi-annual rises in productivity and increases in world trade. New management techniques, improved production technologies, innovative inventory control methods, automatization, robotization, plant modernization, telecommunications (which facilitates more efficient transfers of information), even new design concepts - all helped bring this about.

But productivity gains made humans redundant. No amount of retraining could cope withrepparttar 132687 incredible rate of technological change. The more technologically advancedrepparttar 132688 country -repparttar 132689 higher its structural unemployment (i.e.,repparttar 132690 level of unemployment attributable to changes inrepparttar 132691 very structure ofrepparttar 132692 market).

In Western Europe, it shot up from 5-6% ofrepparttar 132693 workforce to 9% in one decade. One way to manage this flood of ejected humans was to cutrepparttar 132694 workweek. Another was to support a large population of unemployed. The third, more tacit, way was to legitimize leisure time. Whereasrepparttar 132695 Jewish and Protestant work ethics condemned idleness inrepparttar 132696 past -repparttar 132697 current ethos encouraged people to contribute torepparttar 132698 economy through "self realization", to pursue their hobbies and non-work related interests, and to expressrepparttar 132699 entire range of their personality and potential.

This served to blurrepparttar 132700 historical differences between work and leisure. They are both commended now. Work, like leisure, became less and less structured and rigid. It is often pursued from home. The territorial separation between "work-place" and "home turf" was essentially eliminated.


Sam Vaknin is the author of Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East. He is a columnist for Central Europe Review, United Press International (UPI) and eBookWeb and the editor of mental health and Central East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101.

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