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My colleague’s conversation is what Ben Zander and Rosamund Stone Zander call “downward spiral talk”. They say in
book The Art of Possibility, “Focusing on
abstraction of scarcity, downward spiral talk creates an unassailable story about
limits to what is possible and tells us compellingly how things are going from bad to worse.”
Obviously it would be good to stop that kind of talk—if you can. This can be difficult especially if you are paid to find
problems with something. Lawyers look for holes in
other person’s case, engineers look for problems to solve, and accountants often look for ways
numbers don’t work.
There is energy in finding what is wrong with something. The key is to use that energy even if
use is to write a report or argue a case. My colleague needed to take
energy of his negativity and use that energy to find innovative ways to make
job interesting. That is what I had done when I made a game of it. Getting stuck in
negativity makes you a victim of circumstances rather than being 100% responsible for your own results.
Take Action:
1. Where are you being negative? Are you aware of a downward spiral talk in your work? How can you use
energy of
talk in a different way?
2. Read
Art of Possibility by Rosamund Stone Zander and Benjamin Zander. 3. Take a look at this book and website. This will give you another perspective on
issue of negativity: Julie Norem’s The Positive Power of Negative Thinking: Using Defensive Pessimism to Harness Anxiety and Perform at Your Peak http://www.defensivepessimism.com/
4. David Caruso and Peter Solovay in their book The Emotionally Intelligent Manager give these four key emotional skills:
a. Identifying Emotion: Emotions contain critical information and data. b. Using Emotion: Different emotions help our thinking in different ways.
c. Understanding Emotion: Emotions follow a logical pattern, if you know how to look at them.
4d. Managing Emotion: You cannot be effective without
wisdom of emotions.
How might these skills help you with downward spiral talk?

About Alvah Parker
Alvah Parker is a Business and Career Coach as well as publisher of Parker’s Points, an email tip list and Road to Success, an ezine. Parker’s Value Program© enables her clients to find their own way to work that is more fulfilling and profitable. Her clients are managers, business owners, sole practioners, attorneys and people in transition. Alvah is found on the web at www.asparker.com. She may also be reached at 781-598-0388.