Mindfulness and Mystery: Sleuthing Toward Interpersonal Awareness

Written by Maya Talisman Frost

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What can you learn about this person in particular and people in general by paying attention to this gesture? What arerepparttar subtle differences between people using this gesture, and between instances whenrepparttar 140079 same person uses this gesture?

Remember, to develop mindfulness we need to notice new things, draw distinctions, shift our perspective, and stay focused onrepparttar 140080 moment.

•Watching for a gesture allows us to pop into mindfulness mode whenever we notice our selected trigger. •Paying attention torepparttar 140081 various emotions and words ofrepparttar 140082 player helps us draw distinctions. •Looking at how different people use this gesture depending onrepparttar 140083 circumstances teaches us to shift our perspective. •Spending even a few seconds of mindful attention whenever we see that hand-to-forehead gesture gives us a simple, brief, appealing opportunity to be fully present inrepparttar 140084 moment.

Whether your interpersonal intelligence is highly developed or not, you can improverepparttar 140085 way you pay attention torepparttar 140086 world around you by engaging in this easy little game. Just pick a gesture, and start noticing when it appears.

Nobody needs to know. It's your secret mission. It will take only a few seconds here and there.

You will find that this is a remarkably powerful way to improve your ability to shift your focus instantly, heighten your awareness of visual cues, deepen your understanding of how emotions are expressed, and start seeing yourself as someone who PAYS ATTENTION.

Start sleuthing your way toward greater mindfulness by watchingrepparttar 140087 dramas unfold all around you.

You'll be maximizingrepparttar 140088 mysteries of life!

Maya Talisman Frost is a mind masseuse in Portland, Oregon. Through her company, Real-World Mindfulness Training, she teaches fun and powerful eyes-wide-open alternatives to meditation. To subscribe to her free weekly ezine, the Friday Mind Massge, please visit http://www.MassageYourMind.com.

Stress Management

Written by Kim Olver

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I say stressing can be motivating. Many of us perform at our peak level when we have that adrenalin rush moving through our veins. Anyone who has ever waited untilrepparttar last minute to study for a test or complete a project knows what I’m talking about here.

Stressing can also be a way of telling others they better back off. I know when I felt stress, it was my unconscious goal to let my boss know she had better not ask me to do one more thing or I just might lose it! I would send out signals of overwhelm---lots of sighing, threatening looks, irritability, loss of humor. I have to admit that since I didn’t do it very often, it was quite effective. Whenever I was stressed, my boss generally left me alone to do my work.

Stressing can also get usrepparttar 140078 help we need. Whenrepparttar 140079 message is out there, others may rally around us to support us. People may actually offer to do some things for us so we can reducerepparttar 140080 overwhelm.

Another possible benefit is that stressing can provide us with recognition. People may say, "Wow, look at _____________. I don't know how he/she gets all that done. It's amazing!" There are some who appreciate this positive recognition.

One final thought on stressing benefits. . . When we stress long enough, we may develop physical symptoms. In Choice Theory, Dr. Glasser tells us that are behavior is total, meaning it is comprised of four inseparable component---the action, our thoughts, our feelings andrepparttar 140081 physiology of our body or whatever our body is doing at that moment. When we don’t take care of managing our stress levels, our physiology takes over and creates physical symptoms for us. Now remember, I said all behavior is purposeful and physiology is a part ofrepparttar 140082 total behavior. Do you understandrepparttar 140083 purpose ofrepparttar 140084 physical symptoms that accompany prolonged stress? Of course, it is our body’s way of telling us we have to stop or slow down. It producesrepparttar 140085 physical symptoms that are hard to ignore. When we attend to them, we getrepparttar 140086 rest we need and therefore reducerepparttar 140087 stress. Can you see how all behavior is purposeful?

If you are experiencingrepparttar 140088 effects of stress in your life, I am not suggesting that you are to blame. What I am saying is that up until this point, you have been doing absolutelyrepparttar 140089 best you know how, consciously or unconsciously to get something you want by stressing. If you can pinpoint whatrepparttar 140090 benefit(s) of stress is/are to you, then you can look at ways to get what you need without having to stress.

To learn about stress management, visit www.TheRelationshipCenter.biz and check our events calendar for upcoming teleclasses, chats and workshops.

Kim Olver is a licensed professional counselor and a life/relationship coach. She helps people unleash their personal power by living from the inside out, focusing their time and energy on only those things they can control. She also helps people improve the quality of their relationships with the important people in their lives.

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