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Then something sneaky happens: scar is surreptitiously removed, and participant enters interview thinking scar is still visible.
Right after interview, in virtually every case, participant is full of all kinds of examples of how interviewer behaved negatively due to scar. When viewing a video showing interviewer only, participant can point to several incidents which seemed to him to indicate distaste or prejudice-- "See? He's staring at scar!” etc.
Even after being shown images that clearly indicate that scar was not visible, participant is likely to persist in his belief that interviewer was focusing on it.
We all have invisible scars (irrational beliefs) about way we are treated by others--and why. Our left brains are working overtime to reinforce our beliefs. We get so entangled in these thoughts that our entire view of ourselves and world is strangled by them.
By paying attention to language in our heads, we can learn to recognize beliefs that might be sabotaging us. Observing our thoughts gives us a chance to step back and see left brain in action.
Use mindfulness to see your invisible scars. Watch your knee-jerk responses whenever you feel slighted by someone, and look for list of rationales that your left brain has been crafting. Somewhere in there is kernel of your persistent belief.
Watch and listen. You don't have to be a neuroscience geek to find that fascinating.
Maya Talisman Frost is a mind masseuse in Portland, Oregon. Through her company, Real-World Mindfulness Training, she teaches eyes-wide-open ways to get calm, clear and creative. To subscribe to her free weekly ezine, the Friday Mind Massage, please visit http://www.MassageYourMind.com