Mind-Reading Game

Written by Rinatta Paries

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Communicate. In mind reading, you would respond to another according to your interpretation of his or her actions. He or she would in turn respond to you according to his or her interpretation of your actions, and on and on and on.

Without mind reading and hence interpretation,repparttar logical step is to communicate. Ask questions. Share your feelings. Ask for what you want. Set boundaries. Expand your communication repertoire. As long as you are gentle and respectful, you can say almost anything to anyone without causing an adverse reaction.

This will not work with everyone immediately, but will work with most people eventually. After all, communication creates intimacy and growth, which is why we all want relationships inrepparttar 101996 first place.

When you playrepparttar 101997 mind-reading game you set yourself up for craziness and often for disappointment, resentment, fear and anxiety. Once you stop playingrepparttar 101998 game, realize what's going on withrepparttar 101999 other person is not personal and start communicating, you'll notice a dramatic change in your peace of mind andrepparttar 102000 quality of your relationships.

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The Talking Stick for healthy communication

Written by Neva Howell

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Eventually,repparttar mind lets go of allrepparttar 101995 various things it thinks it wants to say, since it begins to understand that it cannot speak just yet. In that mental release, new understanding is possible. I learned aboutrepparttar 101996 Talking Stick through Lakota friends. I am deeply grateful for this knowledge, and feelrepparttar 101997 use of this Sacred Tool has enriched my life.

If you really want to gainrepparttar 101998 fullest benefit fromrepparttar 101999 relationships you have chosen at this time, make a Talking Stick and use it. You can find a special stick inrepparttar 102000 woods, use a length of cane, or any other natural item. Personalize it with spiritual medicine that represents both you and your partner (and children, if you have any--they should be in family circles and listened to as closely as you will be learning to listen to each other). You can add feathers, crystals, stones, sprigs of sage, etc. If you'd like further guidance, in creatingrepparttar 102001 Talking Stick according to Native-American tradition, seekrepparttar 102002 guidance of a teacher of Native-American ancestry.

Though it may be challenging at first, to let someone speak withoutrepparttar 102003 need to interrupt or respond, you will find that it becomes more and more a way of communicating, even whenrepparttar 102004 stick is not present. The more you use it,repparttar 102005 more you will learn about patience andrepparttar 102006 more you will discover about those closest to you and also, about yourself.

I've often thought that it would be a perfect world if we could all walk as if each person, at all times, carried a Talking Stick.

Neva is a wellness counselor, spiritual healer and reflexologist. She maintains an extensive health and Spirit website at http://www.healthynewage.com

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