Mind, Body, Spirit Healing vs. Traditional Psychotherapy/PsychoanalysisWritten by Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, MSW, CCH, CRT
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The higher self has somewhat of a higher perspective of our human "doings" here. This can be likened to a view of our life path and actions from a helicopter above us. This higher self is akin to our "soul self." I like to call it "all seeing self"...constantly moving us around on this chessboard of life. This soul self or "higher self" knows just exactly what we need to do at any moment and strives to tell us through such things as dreams and instincts. Connecting with this "higher self" consciously is very empowering. Working with this metaphysical principle is often called "transpersonal" because it transports us to a direct contact with highest part of ourselves. Consciously connecting higher self, subconscious mind, and conscious mind allows us to have a balanced and complete metaphysical healing. (The subconscious mind is inductive computer that cannot deduct, but merely remembers all perceptions we have ever had, from any lifetime.) Metaphysical and Mind, Body, Spirit Healing In metaphysical healing, Facilitator assists person to connect with three major parts of themselves—mind, body, spirit, and to go back to inner child, or "child of inner light." All things came from light, so internally we are all light, no matter what camouflage (depression, anxiety, panic attacks, anger, shame, guilt, sadness, eating disorders, substance abuse, etc.) we have adopted to keep our "inner child" safe. We ourselves often do not know any of this consciously, but when you learn it, and consciously give this "trilogy" our empowerment to act in our lives, amazing healing occurs. This is true spiritual healing. We have many bodies that all empathize and work to help one another. The physical is lowest or most "base" of these bodies, so that when these different bodies have problems that hurt us, they eventually show up in this body. Since all bodies help each other by drawing attention to some special part of us, we cannot avoid dealing with a problem. The soul directs attention there by running "most powerful" emotional experience over and over again - at least vibrationally - so that we will eventually "get it" and look for original cause...In this soul reclaiming technique of looking for damaged "inner child" becomes very important. This is because when we are hurt too badly we sort of "splinter off" or "cocoon" into child we are at that moment of most hurt and dis-empowered self. The person we are just continues on doing best we can to grow and develop. When we become strong enough, soul urge to become "whole " again becomes empowered, seeks out means by which we can "reclaim" this "inner child," who seeks to help us become whole again. Metaphysical healing is a very simple process, though its explanation is lengthy. We consciously know of this child part of us and it's pain inside. Unfortunately, we are seldom given tools with which to reclaim this part of us and unite this inner child with person we have become now... This transpersonal healing is very complete, much easier and more efficient than you can believe, and wonderfully fulfilling. This is original abandonment: when we separate off from ourselves because we simply are seeking to learn and grow and lesson seems way too hard, we become "segmented off," less powerful, and believe we have to be victims. We are all very powerful, incredible "beings of Light," and it is time we took control of that loving power and help each other heal and recognize beauty of all our "inner child self;" help them become reclaimed and we, therefore, become whole, healed, beautiful beings with a higher perspective of our true spiritual wholeness. Only then, can we accomplish what we have come here to do and recognize our soul's real purpose for being here at this time. The benefits of healing are all encompassing. In working with people for 23 years, I have learned, no matter how urgent or grim a person's predicament seems to be, I know without doubt if they are WILLING to do mental work of going within to release old beliefs, feelings, thought patterns and forgiving, anything can be healed. The belief that some issues or conditions are ‘incurable' whether it is emotions or physical illness, which is so frightening to so many people, only means that particular issue or condition cannot be cured by ‘outer' methods and that person needs to GO WITHIN to effect healing. Whether issue is anger, sadness, fear, guilt, shame, or humiliation there is a negative thought pattern that produces them—thus these consistent thinking patterns create our experiences. A condition can be as annoying as acne or as dreaded and frightening as ‘C' word—Cancer. By changing our thought patterns, we can change our experience, thus healing condition. The issue or condition came from inner trauma person experienced and can be healed—never to return again. ###
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Responding to Criticism Without Being DefensiveWritten by Sharon Ellison
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Instead, if we listen to feedback, however judgmental it sounds, and figure out whether we think it applies to us or not, then we don't have to retaliate immediately and intensify conflict. Later, during same conversation, or perhaps even at another time, we can ask other person (if we are sincerely curious and not point-proving) "Do you think your sarcasm (for example) contributed in any way to how I reacted?" Or, "Do you think you ever (for example) have double standards-or do you think you don't?" We can bring up related issues, if we create a transition period and deal first with one our partner brought up. To remain non-defensive, we must separate how we take accountability ourselves from whether or not other person chooses to do so at any given moment. When we need to prove our partner is as "bad as we are" or worse, we are neck-deep in muck of power struggle. In non-defensive communication, we address issue other person has brought up trusting that we can bring up our own issue later. Doing so can give both partners a "hearing aid." Professionals: Drop The Game of Passing Blame and Enhance Others' Respect In professional relationships how we get our own work done is often dependent on how well other people do their jobs. So, frequently, when we receive criticism it is easy to "pass buck" and justify why we had difficulty with our part based on how others contributed to that difficulty. Instead of starting out by shifting blame or making excuses, even if we think problem was caused by a co-worker, we can ask questions, such as, "What would you suggest I do differently next time?" or, "Were you aware that I had to get materials from Jane before I could finish project?" Or, "If she doesn't have her part of project to me on time, how would you suggest I deal with it?" If feedback is about your own performance and not related to what anyone else has or hasn't done, you can just start by asking for more information. You can ask for additional details about how supervisor or co-worker sees your attitude and behavior. Then, if there are points where you disagree, you can still use questions, such as, "If you think I shouldn't have criticized quality of George's work on project, are you saying I should just accept however he does it?" Or, "Are you saying I should just accept how he did it, or do you think it was how I said it?" Or, "Do you think there is any way I can let him know when I think quality needs improvement?" At some point you may wish to disagree with part or all of what person is saying. However, if your initial response to criticism is to gather more information, I think you will gain professional respect. Also, if other person is off-base, your questions may prompt her or him to re-think criticism. Building Wisdom and Gaining Respect For most of us, responding to criticism without defending our selves has meant being "defenseless," caving in, losing face, feeling bad about ourselves. On other hand, responding defensively has meant being harsh, closed, shutting others out. This is a no-win choice. We look bad and undermine our own self esteem either way. If we can learn to respond to criticism with true non-defensive openness and clarity, asking questions, stating our position, and setting limits when needed, we can build our own wisdom and garner respect of both children and adults in our lives. This article is based on Taking War Out of Our Words by Sharon Ellison, available through your local bookstore or favorite online bookseller. Sharon Ellison, M.S. is an award winning speaker and international consultant.
Sharon Ellison, author of Taking the War Out of Our Words, has written a number of helpful articles for individuals seeking information on relationships, psychology, parenting and mental health. She is a founder of Ellison Communication Consultants, of Oakland, California, and an award-winning speaker and internationally recognized consultant. Please visit http://www.pndc.com