Don't let your tapes eat away at you silently - deal with it today and stop hiding behind your stuff. Allow yourself to go forward with your life and become clutter free.

Dr. Phil told volunteers of The Challenge that they needed some new tapes to start running, and that if they couldn't do it alone to please get some help! He also told them they can't change what happened but they can change what will happen. You choose!

Isn't time to stop feeling or acting victim because of what might have happened to you in your past? As long as you live in past and have an "oh poor me" attitude you will NEVER be able to move forward. You are in CONTROL of your life NOW! You get to decide and take responsibility for your actions. Not people that might have done you an injustice. Not people that couldn't give you what you wanted or needed. Not people that might have given you too much or too little. Not people that have hurt you in some way. If you feel you are lacking something in your life then just visit any shelter, without judgement, and just see what lack really is. What do you have that you can give to others?

Release, unwind, and let go of tapes that tell you you are not worthy, you have to keep every gift, you must hold on to items that are still useful, that you must keep just in case, or that you must buy, buy, buy.

You need to: =>Address your clutter problems to find solutions. =>Stop believing what you've been telling yourself; "one day I'll get organized," or "I'll keep this just in case," or "It's too good to throw away," or "My best friend gave this to me." =>Declare this a new day with new thoughts.

You NEED to get some new tapes in your head!

Today I'll start to get organized. Today I'll start to sort through clutter. Today I will DECIDE for myself what I should keep. Today I'll look at my stuff differently, through my eyes. Today I'm willing to let go of items that no longer serve me, make me unhappy, have bad memories, or are no longer wanted.

Once you start releasing (giving) things that might be causing your pain, anxiety, or sorrow then get ready to start receiving (getting) things you really need, want, or have been dreaming or wishing for.

The Universe is very powerful and will quickly replace things in your life that you've let go of freely with those of your true needs or desires.

Victim of something - probably. Freedom to change and make choices - ABSOLUTELY!

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself." --Harvey Fierstein

For additional help: The Organizing and Feng Shui Wizard, Janet L. Hall, FSII has a FREE newsletter, OverHall IT! at http://www.overhall.com/newsletter.htm and many organizational products for your office, home, and computer at http://www.overhall.com/products.htm Janet is a Professional Organizer, Certified Feng Shui Practitioner, Speaker, and Author and can help you regain control of your life, your time, your stuff, and your environment.

Copyright (c) 2002 by OverHall Consulting P.O. Box 263, Port Republic, MD 20676 All Rights Reserved. Permission is granted to reproduce, copy, or distribute this article so long as article is kept intact, this copyright notice, and full information about author is attached.

What physical attributes do you love about yourself? I love natural white streaks that are starting to flow through and shine in my hair.

What emotional attributes do you love about yourself? I love that a book or a movie can be so moving, a child can be so loving and innocent, or a spectacular scene can be so breath taking that I'm moved to tears or laughter.

What spiritual attributes do you love about yourself? I love that I can ASK and I KNOW I will receive.

What creative attributes do you love about yourself? I love that I can turn a plot of ground into a beautiful garden of flowers or vegetables.

If there is something you don't like about yourself - step up and start doing something about it. Stop looking at yourself or thinking of your "bad" attributes. Focus on your "good". Stop dwelling on negative and only allow positive in and out. What we focus on multiplies: good or bad, negative or positive.

To quote Alan Cohen, "But because we are spiritual beings, it is inside world that determines our happiness. The most powerful way to improve your circumstances is by upgrading your consciousness. If you try to change your situation without changing your mind, sooner or later you will revert to your former position."

If there's something about you that CANNOT be changed, accept and love yourself for who you are.

I love me for me, and you need to love yourself, and give yourself positive attention before anyone else will or can. Love yourself unconditional.

I'm a firm believer that if you want someone to love you, you have to love yourself FIRST!

2. Do you give yourself positive attention, and put yourself first?

For next 31 days put yourself first; take time out for yourself. Give yourself positive attention you deserve. Meditate or pray. Take a walk on beach, around neighborhood, through your yard. Go fishing, to a game, or an event. Have a soak, or lie in grass. Curl up with a good book or watch your favorite movie. Get a new hair style, a manicure, pedicure, or massage (yes, men can do this too!)

3. Are you getting in your own way and blocking flow of love, intimacy, and attention by surrounding yourself with useless or unneeded stuff?

4. Are you "spinning your wheels" looking for stuff all day, moving stuff from one room or pile to next; too tired in evening or weekends to have a relationship?

Love yourself, and your surroundings, and rehabilitate yourself from your clutter.

Your possessions don't love you - they posses you!

Your possessions and stuff will not end your emotional lacking. Possessions, clutter, and all your "stuff" are just a temporary substitute to fill a void, calm you, or satisfy a desire or need, and most likely causing you MORE pain, chaos, and problems.

5. Has romance frizzled, gone dry, or disappeared from your life?

Make a list of all things that have changed in your love area. What's missing or lacking? What can you do to change this and how?

If you have a partner, please talk to them; maybe they are missing you too.

Find out what you need to do to get romance back into your lives. Make your list together.

Can you have a "standing" weekly or monthly date?

If you need a sitter, can you schedule in advance?

Will a romantic dinner, interlude, or just a walk, hand-in hand, satisfy what's missing?

Do you need a weekend or a week away, alone, together with no interruptions?

Do you just need an unexpected hug, a kiss, a wink, or an adult conversation?

Only you and your partner can discover, together, what is missing and how to bring back into your life what you need.

Whether you are single, dating, or whatever your situation, you need to discover by looking inside yourself what it is you need, what are you looking for, what will feed your Spirit and Soul.

Ask and ye shall receive, believe this, it will come to you.

For next 31 days, get "sober" from your clutter EVERYDAY by tossing or giving away stuff that is causing your clutter, and your pain. Remember that you are trying to replace your old habits and "addictions" with new and supportive ones. As like addict, who replaces getting high or going bar hopping, they attend AA meetings, and discover new ways to spend their time, so must you find out what you need to do and get to get sober from your clutter.

Arnold Patent said "If you ever feel that you should do something, lie down until feeling passes." Let's put a twist on this by saying, If you ever feel that you need to bring ANYMORE stuff into your life, lie down until feeling passes.

For additional help: The Organizing and Feng Shui Wizard, Janet L. Hall, FSII has a FREE newsletter, OverHall IT! at http://www.overhall.com/newsletter.htm and many organizational products for your office, home, and computer at http://www.overhall.com/products.htm Janet is a Professional Organizer, Certified Feng Shui Practitioner, Speaker, and Author and can help you regain control of your life, your time, your stuff, and your environment.

Copyright Ó 2001 by OverHall Consulting P.O. Box 263, Port Republic, MD 20676 All Rights Reserved. Permission is granted to reproduce, copy, or distribute so long as article is kept intact, this copyright notice and full information about contacting author is attached.