* 3. Freely contribute your opinions and suggestions with your family. You'll feel better and your family will benefit.

* 4. Participate in decision-making process at work, at home, and at civic clubs. When your actions show people that you make and carry out responsible decisions, they will respect you much more for having done so.

* 5. Accept mistakes you make for what they are: simply human errors. Realize that making mistakes is part of being human. Learn from them and move on.

* 6. Focus on why of your actions rather than on what. Look at effort and energy you put into doing something and reasons behind it rather than looking so much at what you do.

* 7. Become an expert at looking for positive potential in yourself and others. By learning to tune in to yourself and others, you'll become an expert on building closer, more trusting relationships.

* 8. Have confidence in your ability to make good judgment. As you start believing in yourself, others will, too. * 9. Develop habit of expecting positive things to happen. Even when disappointments set in, expect positive things to happen. You'll soon learn that they will.

* 10. Look at different ways of seeing a situation. Use your creative abilities and look beyond first right answer. Self-esteem is having I-CAN attitude in what you say and do.

Remember:When you maximize your potential, everyone wins. When you don't, we all lose.

They each drink from others water dish—looking at each other as if smiling from ear to ear at how they could “take over” others territory.

We have two cats, which prior to this were members of household, quite ignored by dogs. Our visitors also have a resident cat, which is also ignored by dogs. But no, you get two Alphas together and poor cats turn into “leadership skills”. The cats win every time, but you could never tell that to two alphas.

The whole day was spent in ALPHA ARGUMENT with those two, while Cadman and Prince had a most enjoyable day chasing each other or catching balls. But two Alphas spent day “on prowl”. Puffing out their chests and proving their position as ALPHA.

No blood was shed and no wounds were inflicted. But both of them spent their day in having to prove who they were and how they were better than each other. Last night they all slept hard and sound. I guess spending day proving who you are wore them down.

What about other two? They slept curled up in a king size booty bag together, happily, peacefully and most content.

We got up this morning and have found Alphas had not figured it out and in past four hours have already worked themselves up into a battled frenzy---the other two have eaten their oatmeal and gone about playing with each other in joy.

Hmmm, is there a lesson here? Not that everyone should be a follower because we all need a “leader”---but dang, does everyone have to spend every waking moment of day trying to prove their ALPHA ROLE?

Find your place in what it is that you do. Perform your position to best of your ability and let all those “ALPHAS” feel heat and burden to be on top of chain.

It was in watching these four boys interact yesterday that it became clear. The Alphas are so worried about “losing their power” that they never realized joy in life around them