Marriage Problems? Beware of Pastoral Counsel.

Written by Pat Swan, MS, CMFT, Life and Relationship Coach


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2. Does your pastor strongly encourage all couples to participate in relationship skills training opportunities on an ongoing basis? Does s/he make available in your church, relationship skills classes such as PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) which teach communication and conflict resolution?

3. Does your pastor require a pre-marital inventory for every marriage performed in your church?

If not, why not? Only a valid inventory such as Prepare-Enrich or Focus-Refocus is effective. These have high validity and educate couples on areas of strength and weakness.

4. Do you have a Marriage Savers program in your church?

If not, why not? Marriage Savers www.marriagesavers.org is a church based program which utilizes trained mentor couples and includes programs for couples in every phase of marriage. These programs cut divorce rates and strengthen relationships.

5. Does your pastor refer couples considering divorce to Retrouvaille?

If not, why not? Retrouvaille www.retrouvaille.org has an 80% success rate in bringing couples back fromrepparttar brink.

If most ofrepparttar 101660 above are not present in your church, don’t waste precious time. Find a relationship skills building class (check www.smartmarriages.com), or find a marriage and family counselor, (preferably a member ofrepparttar 101661 American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy) or find a relationship coach, (with MFT training).

What are you waiting for? Strengthen your foundation and start buildingrepparttar 101662 relationship you desire, today.

Pat Swan, M.S., CMFT: Life & Relationship Coach, Speaker, Trainer, Author of “Watch Out! Your Relationships Can Be Hazardous To Your Health.” http://www.StopRelationshipStress.com and http://www.RelationshipSkillville.com . Mailto:pat@patswan.com .


Serendipity: The New Career Science

Written by Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D.


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Or you deliver a batch of fresh-baked brownies to a charity event. The caterer asks if you want to bake more treats on a regular basis, for money.

However, students of serendipity like to quoterepparttar saying attributed to Louis Pasteur: "Chance favors a prepared mind." We all hear messages but most of us ignore them. We get caught up in our own plans or we aren't flexible enough to respond.

Once you realize that career and life changes often follow a feeling of being hit by a two-by-four, you can become more receptive to life's happenstance. An interruption can be seen as a message rather than a nuisance. And sometimes an unexpected encounter can transport you, like a magic carpet, to a place you never heard of, but which feels very much like coming home.

Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D., author of Making the Big Move, helps midlife professionals navigate career and business transitions. "How Smart People Can Derail Their Transitions" complimentary Special Report http://www.cathygoodwin.com/subscribe.html . Contact: http://www.cathygoodwin.com/feedback.html Phone: 505-534-4194




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