"Marriage Problem; Is Your Marriage Problem Severe Enough To Warrant Getting A Divorce?"

Written by Karl Augustine


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Obviously there are many other things that could be labeled a "marriage problem", you have to decide what those are as they pertain to your situation.

So, how do you figure out if a marriage problem or problems are severe enough to warrant a divorce?

You should first examine what your marriage problem actually is and decide if it is exclusively a problem for you or if it is something that you both consider to be a marriage problem. If you arerepparttar only one who seesrepparttar 111096 said action as a marriage problem, you have to decide whether or not that specific marriage problem is being caused by you or whether it is truly a problem brought on by your spouse. Ifrepparttar 111097 marriage problem is unique to you, seek some help from a counselor and do yourselfrepparttar 111098 courtesy of trying to correctrepparttar 111099 problem before you believe that you need to run right out and get a divorce.

You'll be a better person for it because you will have fixed something within yourself.

However, if you truly believe thatrepparttar 111100 marriage problem is caused and prolonged by your spouse, sit down with yourself first and examine what you believe to berepparttar 111101 root cause ofrepparttar 111102 behavior that createsrepparttar 111103 marriage problem. Make sure that you are being logical when you identifyrepparttar 111104 behavior that you feel is causingrepparttar 111105 marriage problem and try to recall ifrepparttar 111106 traits or behavior that you've identified in your spouse are 'fixable' in your mind...assuming of course, that your spouse will agree that you are right.

Next, approach your spouse withrepparttar 111107 information that you've reflected on and try to talk throughrepparttar 111108 cause ofrepparttar 111109 marriage problem. Hopefully your spouse will be open to constructive discussion regardingrepparttar 111110 marriage problem so you can work through it together. If you cannot do work onrepparttar 111111 marriage problem together, seekrepparttar 111112 help of a mediator or marriage counselor so you can actually talk outrepparttar 111113 marriage problem logically. If you cannot work it out after counseling, deep self-reflection and discussions, you should be able to decide whether or notrepparttar 111114 marriage problem warrants a divorce or not.

Of course, no one can decide this but you.

Karl Augustine http://www.deciding-on-divorce.com/marriage-problem.htm



Author of "A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not To Get A Divorce", the eBook recommended by counselors to thier clients. Proven "Actions Items" to help you decide! marriage problem


ADD / ADHD Children : Being Your Child's Best Friend

Written by Kate Hufstetler


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catch him/her being good!! * With young ADD / ADHD children try picture charts onrepparttar wall for daily routines to

follow. * Your child needs extra reminders, extra chances, extra love, and extra

encouragement (so do you!!) * Read The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell. * Knowrepparttar 111095 educational rights in your school district and utilize each and every one of

them :-) * Be patient withrepparttar 111096 child, your mate, and especially yourself. * Tenderness and politeness goes a long way with these precious ones. * These kids love to be helpful-- utilize it, just don't seek perfection :-)

and finally:

** DON'T go It  ALONE! Enlistrepparttar 111097 help of extended family, friends, neighbors,

associates, playmate families, medical professionals, and perhaps a coach for sanity.

Two myths that existed when I was a child: The first was thatrepparttar 111098 parents were always right and had allrepparttar 111099 answers. The second one was that "You can have it all, baby".

Well, as a parent-- I knowrepparttar 111100 first is NOT true. And as a working mom--repparttar 111101 second is

outrepparttar 111102 door as well (or at leastrepparttar 111103 romanticized fantasy version of it is).

* You are a parent-- do your best. * Learn every day. * Ask for forgiveness. * And cherish this relationship.

You can design your life-- You are a parent, and an individual. You have to pick and

choose which elements will be incorporated within it, and, how you want it to run.

Your child needs love, fun, consideration, truth, honesty, openness, andrepparttar 111104 gentle/firm

guidance that best friend's can give without damaging or strainingrepparttar 111105 relationship. You

already have so many different hats to wear all day for your various roles. Being your

child's best friend might simplify some of that. Give it a try.

Enjoy these years and enjoy your ADD / ADHD child !!!!

Until next time--- allrepparttar 111106 best, Kate

Kate Hufstetler is a well established business & personal coach who has helped

many individuals like yourself to beat "the blues" and gain control over their lives.

Through personal and business mentorship, she could help you! Visit more of Kate's

articles here: http://www.comedreamwithme.com & http://mindpower.smartads.info


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