Male Impotence MythsWritten by Chris Morrow
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Once impotence is effectively treated, most men go on to lead active, satisfying sex lives. Myth #5 - Impotence is a man's problemBoth partners in a relationship can experience problems when impotence goes untreated. Often failure to communicate and denial of problem lead to depression, anxiety, and lack of self-esteem for both partners. A tendency to avoid sexual contact can often leave partner feeling unloved, unattractive and unwanted. Myth #6 - Impotence is too embarrassing to discuss with anyoneA number of men find it very difficult to discuss any problems they may be experiencing, particularly impotence. Impotence can often be symptom of an underlying medical condition and won't simply "go away" if it remains untreated. Once condition is diagnosed, suitable treatment can begin immediately and problem can usually be alleviated. Myth #7 - Men should know all about sexThe general consensus of opinion is that men instinctively know how to have sex. But clinical studies confirm that impotence can result from lack of knowledge and ignorance about "mechanics" of sex. A common misconception is that sex is a simple and straightforward process for men. Not true. Many men find it difficult to discuss subject, and asking questions would reveal their ignorance and lack of knowledge and possibly threaten their masculinity. Media images of virile male in action only serve to further alienate those men who don't understand "the basics". Talking to a specialist counselor or therapist will quickly clear up any misconceptions and help overcome problems due to lack of knowledge. Myth #8 - Men always want sex The myth that men are always "ready, willing and able" is simply not true. The commonly held misconception of "dominant male" has been proven to damage sexual, physical and psychological wellbeing of a number of men. A recent Swedish study on sexuality and marriage carried out on 286 couples of varying ages found that men who perceived themselves to be "dominant male" were more likely to experience temporary impotence if sex was requested by their partner, when they weren't in mood. Healthy relationships should be about equal partnerships, good communication and respect for feelings of both individuals. It's not uncommon for one partner to want more frequent sexual activity, and sexual desires can fluctuate between partners and at various times. Discussing these issues reasonably and rationally so that each partner understands needs of other helps maintain a happy and healthy sexual relationship. For more information about impotence, male sexuality, female sexual dysfunction, and many other topics related to impotence and sexuality, please visit http://www.impotence-guide.com.
Chris Morrow is a human behavioral consultant who works in the area of human sexuality and sexual health. Chris is co-author of www.impotence-guide.com, a comprehensive and educational website about all facets of male impotence and sexuality.
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The renewal of sexual function is viewed by a number of men as being given a "second chance". They don't take their restored function for granted and are usually willing and eager to explore their feelings and their relationship with renewed hope and vigor. Sadly, that's not always case. Many men who have dealt with impotence for a long period of time find that being able to resume intercourse is not solution for a disintegrating relationship. New and unfamiliar pressures can be exerted on both partners and it's often a time when a couple need to seriously evaluate health of their relationship. Evaluating your relationship and your sex life in an honest and candid way can have an impact on both of you. - The Meaning of Sex in Your Relationship
It's no secret that men and women react differently to sex - before, during and afterwards. Mutually satisfying sex is an integral part of a healthy, well-developed relationship. As part of solid foundation between two people, it can bring intimacy, joy and trust to each partner. However, as sole pillar in a faltering relationship, it can be the weak link. In between these two standards is an entire universe of emotions and experiences that are unique to each couple. Think about your feelings regarding your relationship: - How happy are you with your partner?
- How satisfied are you with your sex life?
- How satisfied is your partner with your sex life?
- Is your relationship based on friendship, mutual understanding and trust, family commitments, or sex?
- How well do you both communicate your feelings about all aspects of your relationship?
Remember that a mutually satisfying sex life is an integral part of a healthy relationship. When physical aspects of your relationship are on track, you create an experience that is greater than two of you, and one that adds to your overall mental and physical contentment. - Identifying Sexual Problems and Anxieties
Close examination of your sexual partnership with a view to solving any problems that exist is an extremely delicate matter. Being able to openly and candidly express things that make you uncomfortable, cause embarrassment, or deny you pleasure requires a great deal of tact and diplomacy. Communicating your desires, things that bring you pleasure and what it takes to bring you sexual fulfillment can be equally embarrassing to express. Good communication is key to a happy and healthy sexual relationship. Being able to speak frankly about what makes you happy and what doesn't requires courage and empathy - ability to say how you feel and what you want without upsetting your partner or causing them to go on defensive. In many cases, couples who have experienced communication problems often seek help of a mediator or sex therapist to help them clearly and objectively state their case. Having a third party present in such situations can help diffuse tension and ease any difficulties partners may have communicating their feelings to each other. Some of situations where sexual problems can arise include: - When one partner desires sex more frequently than other.
- When there is dissatisfaction or a lack of pleasure in your sex life.
- When one partner feels they give more than they receive.
- When there is guilt, fear or anxiety about sexual activity.
- When your preferred sexual activities are at odds with each other.
The psychology of impotence is about sometimes stepping into uncharted waters. It requires confidence and experience that comes with learning, understanding and embracing your own sexual desires and those of your partner. We're not all mind readers, so communicating openly and honestly, and defining what satisfies you sexually is first step. Listening to your partner in an equally honest and open manner is just as important. Empathy, patience, perseverance and compromise are markers of a highly successful sexual relationship. To learn more about impotence and male sexuality, visit http://www.Impotence-Guide.com.
Chris Morrow is a human behavioral consultant who works in the area of human sexuality and sexual health. Chris is co-author of www.impotence-guide.com, a comprehensive and educational website about all facets of male impotence and sexuality.
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