Making Mother’s Day Special

Written by Marguerite Bonneville

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3.The next list is her talents. Where does she excel? For example, is she artistic? Does she paint, draw, sculpt, arrange flowers or decorate well? Do you exhibitrepparttar same traits or perhaps a variation? Does she have a good singing voice? Good looks? An ability for math, English, writing, gardening, science? What natural talents do you share with her?

4.The final list focuses on what she taught you. Did she instil specific values, beliefs, attitudes that have served you in your life? Did she teach you skills that have benefited you in some way? Did she arrange lessons in other areas where you expressed an interest, so that you could develop new skills or talents? This is a gift too.

5.What is her greatest gift to you?

6.When your list is complete, set aside an hour or so and write a thank you letter. It doesn’t have to be sweet or sentimental. Just list allrepparttar 136595 gifts she’s given you, whether through heredity, example or teaching, and thank her for them. You can embellish your message if you wish, butrepparttar 136596 whole point ofrepparttar 136597 exercise is to express your gratitude for what she has contributed to your life.

7.You can handwriterepparttar 136598 message, type it into your computer, and print it in a plain or calligraphic font. Whatever feels right for you.

8.Then include it withrepparttar 136599 card you give her on Mother’s Day. It will be an occasion she’ll never forget.

Marguerite Bonneville is a Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) whose passion is publishing information online. She is a contributing writer at, an online florist service which delivers flowers around Australia and across the globe.

Why Receive Christian Pre-marital Counseling?

Written by W Melendez

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It is certainly natural for a marital counselor to talk about spiritual intimacy. Inrepparttar book, The Five Love Needs of Men and Women, Christian marital experts Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg explain how there are two kinds of intimacy in marriage, physical and spiritual. Differences in religion could lead to a lack of understanding and different values. But not everything is religion.

Counselor Grisel López of El Sendero de la Cruz Christian Church in Puerto Rico explains that even inrepparttar 136405 case thatrepparttar 136406 couple is ofrepparttar 136407 same religion, some couples do not have compatibility of ministries. For example, if both are church leaders, and one sings inrepparttar 136408 altar andrepparttar 136409 other preaches, they are compatible. But if one is training to be a foreign missionary andrepparttar 136410 other is a pastor of a local church, then one ofrepparttar 136411 two will have to give up his or her dreams forrepparttar 136412 success ofrepparttar 136413 other, because they can not make both dreams come true and live together happily atrepparttar 136414 same time.

She adds that even church leaders, who knowrepparttar 136415 Bible in general, still need pre-marital counseling. Some churches do not require pre-marital counseling for church leaders becauserepparttar 136416 leaders know Christianity well, yetrepparttar 136417 divorce rate for Christians is aboutrepparttar 136418 same as for non-Christian marriages.

According to Dr. Wayne A. Mack, some ofrepparttar 136419 things covered in pre-marital counseling are relations with in-laws, making a budget together, comparing differences inrepparttar 136420 way each one expresses love, good communication (a factor in most marital problems), and conflict resolution. It is important to plan ahead how you will approach problem solving, not waiting forrepparttar 136421 problems to begin and then start by seeking marital therapy. This is because there will be problems anyway so reducing their volatility will prevent bad memories that are hard to forget later.

Dr. Mack’s workbook, Preparing for Marriage God’s Way, can be used both in addition to marital therapy, (or independently, for those persons who live in areas where there is little availability of Christian pre-marital therapy). Two copies ofrepparttar 136422 workbook are used. Each member ofrepparttar 136423 couple reads and fills outrepparttar 136424 answers individually. Thenrepparttar 136425 couple meet and discus their answers together. Mack suggests they can make note of significant differences and seek therapy for those issues as well.

Pre-marital counseling can be fun also. You get to take personality tests with your betrothed, learning more about each other inrepparttar 136426 process. Or it could lead to more deeper and interesting conversations to talk with your loved one. Some people think they already know each other well. But even people who have been married twenty years face surprises.

You should also find out some of your betrothed’s faults inrepparttar 136427 process. There may be faults that you understand about, this is called unconditional love. But there could also be faults that you do not tolerate. Some things are not negotiable like giving little importance to fidelity. Others might not matter to one husband, for example, that his future wife likes a relaxed style of housekeeping, as long as she is a business woman, but it could matter a lot to another man. Counselor Grisel López teaches thatrepparttar 136428 best way to find your ideal love is to tellrepparttar 136429 truth about how you are so you can find someone who will be happy with you instead of turned off. If you do not reveal your faults you will not know if it is safe to relax your guard with your betrothed and findrepparttar 136430 joy of being loved as you are.

Joshua Harris’ book, Boy meets Girl; Dr. Wayne Mack’s workbook, Preparing for Marriage God’s Way; and Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg’s book, The Five Love Needs of Men and Women; are available in English atrepparttar 136431 author’s Christian Bookstore link:

Wilma Melendez has been a born again Christian for 18 years. She attends El Sendero de La Cruz Christian Church in Puerto Rico and is a counseling student of their Theological Seminary. She studies the Bible auto didactically using books from her online Christian bookstore: Her home page is at

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