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Include A Recent Photograph If Possible Especially if website or personal ad you're responding to included a picture, it's only fair that you send one with your initial response. Not only does sending your photo make your letter more personal, it also eliminates any potential fantasy build-up on part of your new acquaintance. We all want people to say, "You're attractive!" not "I thought you would be better looking," right?
Ask Questions The one-sided conversation that develops when trading e-mails can be difficult. Most people have a hard time talking about themselves without being given a starting point. The initial contact that says, "Here's some stuff about me. If you're interested write back" can be a very challenging letter to answer. Everyone who is using Internet as a tool for meeting prospective friends and dates is not only willing to answer questions about themselves but wants to. It's way to see if you might be compatible. Make it fun and easy to write back to you and chances are you'll get a response.
Be Safe The Internet provides great ways to find other singles to communicate with. It also provides great ways to communicate safely. Never give out your telephone number or other traceable information in a first e-mail. If trading e-mails is too impersonal for your tastes, suggest one of many free chat programs available (ICQ, Yahoo Messenger) or arrange to meet in a public chat. You can take time to get to know someone online until you feel comfortable moving to next level. Of course when and if you do decide to meet someone in "real world," always keep your personal safety in mind.
Carole is the owner of The Virtual Playground For Singles (http://www.vpsingles.com) an interactive online community providing just-for-singles resources since 1996.