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All forms of malice, ill-will and cruelty, euphemized in name of some lofty ideal, come forth from those who speak in names of righteousness; crucifixion of Christ could not have come about except for distorted sense of what is right by persecutors.
If an act is unloving, no ideal can justify it, for to wound another is to wound ourselves. We create pathos in our wake. We spill grief before us.
How to forgive unforgivable? How to release sword of ill-will thrust into our hearts? How to break free of resentment that has bound our tormentors these many years?
You do it by simply understanding that to for give is a healing for you. It is breaking karmic bonds. It is an act of self-loving. Forgiveness heals pity, brings reconciliation to that which is broken within, and makes healing possible.
An act of forgiveness can be silent. In fact, it has little to do with other person. They may or may not feel psychic release as you drop your smoldering anger, nourished over more years than you care to remember.
When you forgive, you release...you release yourself. You release your attachment to pain. You release your aversion to act done to you. And when you do this, something magical happens. You set yourself free.
It is never about whether other person or event deserves your forgiveness. It is about your going free from your own web of negativity. When you forgive, you staunch bleeding. When you forgive, you open up your heart and regain your capacity to love. And when you learn to love, your life opens up like a glorious dream. The question, ultimately, is never whether you should or should not forgive...instead question is always this: do you deserve to be happy right now by letting it go.
Saleem Rana, M.Sc., is a psychotherapist in Denver, Colorado. If you’re interested in signing up for a free 35 week NLP Mindset Success Course, please go here: NLP Mindset Success Course