Now, find a way to wrap up 2001. Read through your journal, if you kept one. Look at photos you took throughout year. Get in touch with friends to reminisce about good times you had this year. Say everything you need to say to someone.

Mostly, honor YOU in passing year and get a great start on creating 2002!

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Let's move on to intentionally making New Year your best year ever. Make sure you follow through on your New Year's'resolutions to have most fun and joy in 2002!

Below are five questions for you to ponder. Don't feel that you must have "right" answers to these immediately. It is actually more important to really focus on questions and allow answers to emerge in a moment of clarity.

Caution: If you want your life to remain exactly same, stop reading now! The following is guaranteed to change you and is dangerous to boredom, routine and loneliness! :-)

1. What would be outrageously fun to do in 2002? 2. In what new and exciting direction do I want to take things I am already doing? 3. How do I want to spend my time in this New Year? 4. What talent do I want to express this New Year? 5. How much love, intimacy, connection, friendship, togetherness and companionship will I allow into my life this year?

While you are thinking about these questions, don't worry about how you will create what you imagine. Don't get bogged down in details - dream BIG for 2002!

Set your sights on most outrageous, glorious life. Set your heart to open. Set your mind to take risks. Spread your wings this year and dare to fly!

Have a glorious New Year!

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!"

6. Reexamine. Reexamine situation from vantage point of present. How did you grow as a result of pain? Was there a hidden gift in going through experience? What did you learn as a result of situation? Repeat until you can feel gratitude toward situation, pain, resentment, anger and other person.

7. Pray. If you pray, say following prayer for at least a month and perhaps longer until you feel complete: "Please remove resentment/anger/pain I am feeling toward/about [name]. Please give [name] as much joy, prosperity, love, etc., as I want for myself."

8. Perform a ritual. Do something physical to symbolize that you are now letting go of past and are ready to move freely into present. Repeat until you feel complete.

9. Repair damage. Actively repair damage that was caused to you. If something of yours was taken, replace it with an item just as good or better. If you were emotionally hurt, give yourself kind of support, acknowledgement, love, etc., that you wanted from other person. Ask trusted others to provide you with emotional support you needed and did not get. It's ok to request to be treated in exactly way you need in order to heal.

10. Talk to spirit of person. Sometimes our relationships go so wrong, so much hurt is created, that it is difficult to imagine person giving us understanding we need to get complete. In these cases, have conversations with person's spirit. Although they may not be able to hear you, you know their spirit will. Recreate suggestion in #4, but talk to person's spirit rather than to actual person.

When you let go of past hurts and resentments, an unimaginable field of possibilities will open up for you. You will be free from your past. You will be free to form bonds with people based on essence and beauty of who you are. You will be able to see essence and beauty of others. From that freedom you will be able to create your ideal relationship.

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!"