Reality: Real love and freedom go hand in hand. In a soulmate connection based on optimal spiritual evolution of each party, you can maintain personal freedom while opening to profound intimacy. Give your commitment and trust to spirit, rather than form, of relationship. Sometimes lack of communication is culprit, if you view a partnership as bondage. Identify amount of space you need to be happy in a relationship and learn how to communicate your desire to your partner.

Myth No.10 - Because of "Original Sin," I don't deserve love.

Reality: Original Sin was actually only an Original Misunderstanding. The so-called Original Sin we committed was that we thought we were separate from God. Turns out we 're not. The Good News is that we were wrong. There is no bad news.

Myth No.11 - Relationships take time, energy, effort and hard work.

Reality: The only work involved is keeping love away. We spend countless hours and effort successfully dodging love at every point of contact in our lives. Every encounter with another human being is an opportunity to receive love-in form of kindness, generosity, a warm handshake or a shared laugh. Right relationships give you energy. Lousy relationships drain your energy.

Myth No.12 - If I open my heart, my partner can hurt my feelings. Love = Pain.

Reality: Other people cannot hurt our feelings; they can only trigger feelings that are already hurt within us. The hurt feelings are already present in our consciousness-in our past, our personality, our programming. In truth, your partner is doing you a big favor by bringing up a wound, a sore spot, within a loving context-for purpose of healing and releasing it. It's not possible to avoid hurt feelings in life or a relationship. But you can use support of real love to move hurt feelings up and out.

Myth No.13 - Another person can "fill hole" we feel inside.

Reality: Temporarily at best! Only you can permanently "fulfill whole" within yourself. Helpfully, for a while, a partner can remind you of what it feels like to feel loved and whole. Then if you surf that wave of connection, you can arrive at shore of lasting self-love.

Myth No.14 - It's best to hide your Shadow from other person.

Reality: It's best to reveal your weaknesses and faults as soon as possible. It's not called "in-to-me-see" for nothing. There's no way to get close to someone and not have your whole self eventually revealed. Learn to dance with your Dark Side. Learn to love everything about your unique self-the whole enchilada, warts and all. The American Plains Indians revealed their worst deficiencies and flaws on their warrior shields. They knew that acknowledging truth of our shortcomings gives us strength. Full self-acceptance is our greatest asset.

Myth No.15 - If I just loose weight, I'll attract lover of my dreams.

Reality: Weight has nothing to do with exercise, genes, diet or how much we eat. Maintaining our perfect body weight is a direct function of free flow of love in our lives. Weight has everything to do with our beliefs about exercise, genes, diet or how much we eat. And our beliefs about exercise, genes, diet or how much we eat are a direct result of our willingness to have love flow freely in our lives.

Myth: No.16 - I'm afraid of rejection or abandonment.

Reality: Spread heartening news: We cannot be rejected by another person unless we have rejected ourselves first. We leave love-love never leaves us. This is a good thing. It means we are in driver's seat. It means we can open-and keep open-the door to love anytime we choose. Find a way to move into more self-acceptance and your days of rejection and abandonment are history.

Myth No.17 - Relationships are made on Earth.

Reality: Relationship are made in Heaven. Embrace love for what it truly is: a mystical sacrament and a sensual communion. Align your description of your Earthly Dream Partner with design of your soulmate agreement, and you will find your Heavenly babe TODAY!

Myth No.18 - I need to marry-or get a formal commitment-from my partner to keep them around.

Reality: "Things which go together naturally need not be tied." - Lao Tzu, Chinese sage

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Now, let this be said, I’m not saying planning’s a bad thing, or dreaming for that matter. But it doesn’t escape my notice that a lot of future “projecting” I do isn’t peaceful. My teacher and friend Byron Katie is famous for saying “if you want fear on purpose, get a future, if you want shame, get a past.

How are you doing with staying in present moment?

Here are some tips I’ve learned that help me stay a bit longer in present moment.

1. When you find yourself imagining fearful scenarios ask yourself, “Is this only possibility?” Search for what else could be true, rather than what you fear.

2. Remind yourself that worrying about future or regretting past isn’t going to change what has or is going to happen.

3. Do you have a fundamental trust that whatever happens you’re going to be ok? Can you find times from your past that serve as evidence that this is true? If so, draw on that experience.

4. Are your basic needs met, does your life work? Often we move into future because we think it will be better there. Consider addressing what ever is not in balance so it will become desirable to be more in now.

5. Practice power of present. Focus on something positive or beautiful right here and now and breathe it in. Let yourself fully feel it.

6. Then, be willing to let go of that too and move on to next moment.

After our invigorating conversation my friend and I walked to waters edge to experience ocean. We both gasped when chill of water hit our bare feet. We laughed and looked at each other and both expressed joy of being able to share moment.

It’s YOUR life…imagine possibilities!