Tip Five: Pay Attention. This is, possibly, most important tip you could follow. In an email, any one can sound wonderful--in real life, it’s much more difficult. When you are becoming involved with someone on Love Empire, watch for ‘red flags’, or odd behavior. For example, if during an online session, your date suddenly becomes angry or aggressive toward you and then, won’t explain why, you should take this into consideration. If one sentence could upset him/her in such a way, it might be cause to worry. Also, pay attention to any attempts to pressure or control you. For instance, if your date is constantly making demeaning comments about you, there is a strong chance that he/she is trying to manipulate you into feeling inferior; therefore, you become an easier target to control. Finally, watch out for inconsistencies with information that your date provides you or evasive answers to questions. If your date displays any of following problems, it would be well-advised to reconsider your relationship:

1. He/she provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc. 2. He/she refuses to speak to you on phone after you have established an 3. online relationship; or, he/she will only speak on a strangely specific 4. timeframe. 5. He/she will not answer any direct questions about themselves. They will 6. either give you a vague answer or will simply turn question back to you. 7. He/she will only provide photos of large groups of people, making it 8. impossible for you to find them.

Online dating can be an exciting and fulfilling part of your life; just remember to follow these tips and act accordingly.

Part Three: Research

You know what kind of relationship you want; whether it be a friend, a casual date, or something as deep as a marital partner, you have a clear picture in your mind of how far you are willing to go. Seek out people with that same goal.

Write a profile that will appeal to kind of person you’re after; only way they can find you is if you help them. Check out other profiles for ideas.

If you receive interest with your profile but still can’t seem to find that right person, then go do some online window-shopping. Scan through profiles, find some that catch your attention, and start messaging. They don’t all have to come to you.

Part Four: Writing

So, you’ve gathered your information and you have a clear idea of what you want out of this site; however, your writing seems a little...lifeless. Be careful of this! By paying attention to three steps before you, you should be able to write a profile that is distinctly you.

This is an example of what not to do: I’m a SBM looking for a SF. Good looking, funny. Message me. Eyes are going to glaze over; you cannot limit yourself like this. It will only hurt you.

Spice it up: I am a 22-year-old female, blessed with long, blonde hair and big, brown eyes. I’m short, only 5’4, but what I lack in size, I make up for in spirit. I am looking for someone that can keep up with me; come and get me, boys. She gives a description and a challenge, all within a few sentences—you don’t have to be long-winded to get point across.

A good profile can bring you all of attention you want and lead you to a successful relationship; follow these steps to what you want.