Part Three: Research

You know what kind of relationship you want; whether it be a friend, a casual date, or something as deep as a marital partner, you have a clear picture in your mind of how far you are willing to go. Seek out people with that same goal.

Write a profile that will appeal to kind of person you’re after; only way they can find you is if you help them. Check out other profiles for ideas.

If you receive interest with your profile but still can’t seem to find that right person, then go do some online window-shopping. Scan through profiles, find some that catch your attention, and start messaging. They don’t all have to come to you.

Part Four: Writing

So, you’ve gathered your information and you have a clear idea of what you want out of this site; however, your writing seems a little...lifeless. Be careful of this! By paying attention to three steps before you, you should be able to write a profile that is distinctly you.

This is an example of what not to do: I’m a SBM looking for a SF. Good looking, funny. Message me. Eyes are going to glaze over; you cannot limit yourself like this. It will only hurt you.

Spice it up: I am a 22-year-old female, blessed with long, blonde hair and big, brown eyes. I’m short, only 5’4, but what I lack in size, I make up for in spirit. I am looking for someone that can keep up with me; come and get me, boys. She gives a description and a challenge, all within a few sentences—you don’t have to be long-winded to get point across.

A good profile can bring you all of attention you want and lead you to a successful relationship; follow these steps to what you want.

When you feel negative emotions they are signals from your subconscious that you are not in harmony with what you desire and this creates emotional energy blocks within your electromagnetic system.

You are not alone. Conflict, manifested as an emotional energy block, is common in almost everyone.

Have you ever wonder why...

Athletes get into slumps?

This defies normal logic. There is no physical reason for an athlete to perform below par. He or she is same highly trained athlete before, after and during slump. Yet, no matter how highly skilled, all athletes go through this consistently throughout their careers. Why?

Addictions are so hard to overcome?

Most addicts want to be free of their destructive patterns. They know, and will often admit, that their addiction is costing them their health, their relationships, their money and even their life! Yet they continue with it. Why?

Depression is so hard to overcome?

Depression is one of most difficult psychological issues to handle. It is not unusual for an individual who suffers from depression to go through years of expensive therapy and not make much progress. Why?

Healing sometimes takes so long?

We have a lingering cold that just won't go away, a headache or pain that keep coming back again and again or a sprain or broken bone that takes forever to heal. Why?

We self-sabotage ourselves?

We try to change our behaviors or become more successful in our business or career yet we often manage to fall back into our previous "comfort zones" with little or no real progress. Why?

The reason we have these experiences is that we do not correct negative emotion IN THE MOMENT. Regardless of what you have read or heard, you cannot correct this through positive thinking. You must go BEYOND POSITIVE THINKING to get rid of “Saboteur Within”. I call this “Right Thinking”. It is right because it is based on truth, not illusion.

Here is something you can do right now.

Notice when you are feeling any negative emotion or conflict. That is you “inner guidance system” telling you that you are not in harmony with your desire. This is your first clue.

IN THAT MOMENT you MUST self-correct. Change your FEELING right then and there because how you FEEL as a result of a thought is what causes negative emotion. The negative emotion then causes conflict. And conflict attracts more of things you DON’T WANT!

So, if you do nothing else, remember that you MUST correct and STOP negative attraction in MOMENT if you are serious about getting rid of “Saboteur Within.” That will clear way for you conscious and subconscious to work in harmony to bring your desire.