You know how much simpler it is so say "I love you" than to act "I love you". What could ever be reason for not using simple manners with your family? Why would you give up saying, 'Thank you' when simplest things are done for you? Are you not thankful? Do you simply expect that you should be considered, taken care of, or done for? That's beginning of end of love...and, maybe, relationship as well.

No matter how many times a person says they love you, believe their behaviour. Behaviour over time tells truth. If someone whispers, 'I love you', it is simply pleasant noise unless their behaviour screams same message daily!

Make this Valentine's Day renewal of your love and let it come with a secret unspoken promise: Every day, my loved ones will feel loved by my words and actions.

Happy Valentine's Day!

Love also looks a lot like time. When we say we love someone, or, for that matter, that we love to do something, proof is often in time we spend with person or time we spend doing activity, isn't it? When I was seeing many couples in my counselling practice, I would often hear pain as one partner expressed their loneliness, saying, "You do not spend time with me." The demonstration of love means spending time with those you say you love, doesn't it? We've all seen or heard stories about parents who were too busy and missed their children's childhoods. Regretting it later is not nearly as effective as doing it now!

Remember, too, that you cannot give a gift you do not have. Be loving to yourself. Spend time with yourself. Know what you enjoy and do it! It is also important to have good communication skills so that you can communicate to others clearly when you think they are being unloving to you. I think it is unloving to allow others to be unloving to you. We are responsible for teaching people how to treat us! If you do not say anything, you are telling them it is all right with you.

IMPORTANT: If love makes world go round, we'd better do our bit because world is turning at 2,000 miles per hour, and we'd get quite a jolt if it stopped.