Living in LOVE : Remembering why you marriedWritten by Samantha Olea, http://thebestmoms.com
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Renew 1-If you eat dinner infront of TV, stop. Gather together at table with TV’s off, so you can actually connect to your family rather than ‘veg out’. 2-Be nice. Okay, sometimes that’s easier said than done, but a little sweetness can go a long way. When you get up or go to another room, ask, “Can I get you anything?” 3-Be forgetful. Don’t remember every little thing your spouse has done that irritates you. Sometimes we hold on to past because it feels familiar. Its not fair to hold past against your spouse, and its not fair for them to do it to you. If they do, lead by example. Once they see you letting go of past, they will also. As long as they know you are holding on to past for future fight ammunition, they will do same. 4-Touch. Place your hand on your spouse’s hand; lay your arm across their shoulders. An innocent touch can be just softness and connection that your spouse is looking for. 5-Overlook. There is nothing gained by pointing out all of your spouse’s short comings, and when they have made a mistake don’t use it as an opportunity to put them down. Surprise them by ‘not noticing’ their mistake. No one likes to have their mistakes pointed out to them. We are all adults, and its likely that they are already aware of what they’ve done.The point is, take some time to remember why you are in this marriage, take some self control and control your end of marriage, and take gloves off. Your spouse is not your enemy, and remember though children are products of marriage, they are not glue that holds a marriage together…love is. Living in love with your spouse can sometimes be challenging, and that’s okay- that’s why vows read for better, or for worse. With a little bit of effort on your part, and a partner that really loves you it is absolutely possible to live in love, and that is not only a great gift to yourself and your spouse. Living in love is a wonderful gift to your children.
About The Author: Samantha Olea is a designer, business woman, wife, and most of all Mother of 2! Samantha founded a free parenting resource at http://TheBestMoms.com hoping to help every mom be the very best mom they can be! Samantha is also the owner of her own web design, graphic design, and hosting firm at : http://getwrappedup.com and AWU Gifts: http://Gifts.GetWrappedUp.com.
| | Words of Wisdom for Single ParentsWritten by Sarah Mitchell
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Do not use your children for emotional support Children need to have fun, play with their friends and enjoy their youth. Do not become overly possessive of your child or look to them for emotional support. This quite often leads to child feeling as overwhelmed as you are. Although you may not be ready for another romantic relationship, try to talk to other adults about your emotions. Kids react best to routine In order to create a stable household envirnonment with children, their must be rules and routine. Simple things like having dinner at same time each night, bed time, homework time etc... If you can provide a schedule for them, they will feel a sense of security. Of course, correct dosage of attention and affection will also provide and sustain a nuturing environment, but a combination of two will always work best. Don't forget about you For single parents with a house full of kids and only one parent to do all work and all worrying, it may be easy to forget about ones self. It is crutial to well-being of your children, that you stay healthy. If you feel run down, ask another parent or relative to mind kids for a night or two. Try to remember things you enjoy doing and dedicate a little bit of your time to do these things. The way a parent feels is quite often reflected in a child. If you are stressed out all time, then this may directly or indirectly affect your child. So, try to stay calm around kids when you can. Take a deep breath, or wait until kids are out of car before you start screaming! Try to remember that it is all about quality not quantity. There are many two parnet households out their that are doing a much worse job than yourself. Just beacause a parent finds themsleves on their own, doesn't mean that things won't work out. Remember, not just anyone can run a house, raise kids and do a thousand other things all at once. Give yourself a pat on back once in a while. You have a lot to be proud of. Best of luck to you!
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