Living Through LossWritten by Margot B
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a friend or relative.It’s a good idea to keep a journal of one’s thoughts and feelings, or write letters to one who has died, or write a story of your memories, or write poetry. Grief can be expressed through painting or sculpture, or by participating in whatever you are proficient in doing. Perhaps sewing or woodworking--perhaps starting a project that will help others. Spend time outdoors in a park or at seashore. Being in touch with nature can be both healing and restorative.It’s important to retain our friendships because feelings of alienation and abandonment are part of grieving process. The best method of fighting these feelings is to look for others to console. The person who has gone through loss of a loved one is uniquely qualified and best able to understand others going through same pain. Spending time with people who have undergone a similar loss can be very therapeutic. You discover how natural your emotions are that you go through during grieving process. You can receive moral support and learn from experiences and ideas of others. Support groups are not for everyone but many people swear by them. Taking care of your health is an important part of getting through your loss. Some physical problems, such as insomnia, loss of appetite, muscle tenseness, are to be expected. Avoid becoming overly tired, get enough rest and sleep, eat nutritious meals, find support, hope and comfort from something you have faith in or are interested in, and life will be better. Avoid making major decisions and changes in your life, as routine and familiarity with your surroundings give you a feeling of stability and permanence when you feel in chaos. The scriptures state; A time to weep, and a time to laugh, a time to mourn, and a time to dance. The time of weeping and mourning will be over. When we are able to form new relationships, perhaps love again, we are on road to recovery. You can pick up pieces and go on, wound heals but scar remains.
Margot B is a writer, proofreader, and web developer. Her web sites are http://margotb.mybravenet.com http://websitebldg.tripod.com E-mail:margotb@wonderport.com
| | Easy Goal SettingWritten by Theresa Frasch
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I often use my Weekly Prioritizing worksheet. You can too. Write down your top three priorities for week. Next, list three actions you need to take this week to honor these priorities. The next step is most important—list possible distractions you will encounter and how you will eliminate them. For instance, if one of my priorities were to get my first book published, I would write “book” as one of my priorities. I would then list, “write chapter four before work on Tuesday.” Now, what could distract me? It could be raining Tuesday morning and then I would have to take my son to school. How will I eliminate those distractions? I could ask my husband if he will be available for school transportation or set it up with a neighbor. I could also set aside some time Tuesday night just in case. By looking ahead and preventing possible distractions before they occur, or by having a secondary plan just in case “plan a” doesn’t work, I will get those things done one way or another. The LIST Step Make lists as you go. List what you want. List how to get there. List obstacles that might get in your way. List how to overcome them. List your action steps. By writing things down, you form a commitment to get them done. And finally, The SUCCESS Step Enjoy your success each time you accomplish part or all of a goal. Each small success will boost your confidence and give you motivation to go on and finish something else.
Theresa Frasch is a "DECLUTTERING SPECIALIST." Theresa Frasch may be contacted at mailto:theresa@organized4success.com Get your FREE Organized 4 Success E-zine and/or "How to Declutter for Good" pamphlet at http://www.organized4success.com.
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