Link Romantic Feelings To The Sight Of Your Face

Written by Marguerite Bonneville

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In a similar way, if you touch someone in a specific way when they are feeling sad, for example, you squeeze their shoulder or put an arm around them at a funeral, touching them later inrepparttar same way will reawaken those feelings of sadness. So be careful about what sorts of emotions you are associating to your touch, words or face.

How does this apply to gifts?

A gift is by its nature an anchor. Every timerepparttar 126078 recipient looks atrepparttar 126079 gift, they will rememberrepparttar 126080 occasion when they received it, especially if they experienced strong emotions atrepparttar 126081 time.

So you can help guarantee that your gift will be a strong ongoing anchor if you make sure that you create a truly memorable experience – such as an extremely romantic evening - when you presentrepparttar 126082 gift.

A woman will always remember following a trail of rose petals in her lover’s apartment to findrepparttar 126083 necklace he purchased for her birthday.

A man will always remember being presented with his own personal star by a lover dressed only in a star-patterned bra and g-string. It’s also important to considerrepparttar 126084 opposite effect.

Never give a gift by way of apology. You don’t want to create negative anchors by giving gifts after an argument.

If you give your wife a diamond ring to apologize forrepparttar 126085 fact that she caught you cheating with your secretary,repparttar 126086 ring will always remind her of your infidelity.

If you give your husband a new watch to apologize for crashing his BMW, he’ll remember your transgression every time he checksrepparttar 126087 time.

Even if those memories don't make it to conscious awareness, they're lurking just underrepparttar 126088 surface. It makes better sense to allow them to fade away, instead of attaching them to physical objects like gifts. Keep things simple. A genuine apology is all that’s required after an argument. Save gifts for positive occasions.

© Marguerite Bonneville Marguerite Bonneville is a Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) whose passion is publishing information online. She is a contributing writer at, a resource site dedicated to helping visitors find the perfect romantic gift.

"The Importance of Emotional Intelligence"

Written by Perry Akasha Lonsdale

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Rigidity (unable to adapt or take on board feedback and learn) Poor relationships (alienating others) Daniel Goleman, who has pioneered much ofrepparttar information about Emotional Intelligence, categorises EI into four main headings: Self-Awareness, Self- Management, Relationship Management and Social Awareness. These are then subdivided into a total of 18 competencies, with each competency containing a number of checklist criteria. For examplerepparttar 126077 competencies within Self-Awareness are Emotional self- awareness, Accurate self assessment and Self-confidence. The checklist criteria under Emotional self-awareness being:

- Are attuned to their inner signals - Recognise how their feelings affect them and their job performance - Are attuned to their guiding values - Can often intuitrepparttar 126078 best course of action because in a complex situation, they see bigger picture - Tend to be candid and authentic, speaking openly about their emotions or with conviction about their guiding vision

An effective business leader will display strengths from at least one of each ofrepparttar 126079 sub categories.

So a good starting point is to become more self-aware. This will mean that we can manage our emotions more effectively, learn to communicate more authentically, take ownership of what we think and say, develop empathy and respect difference. The end result is that we feel more empowered andrepparttar 126080 knock-on effect of that can only be positive.

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