Life lessons - An Inpirational Story

Written by Fatimah Musa


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"Why me?" wasrepparttar question she repeatedly asked. Of course when she asked that question, she got allrepparttar 129002 wrong answers. She felt more depressed. She blamed her father, her mother and everyone for what brought her sufferings. Worst, she blamed herself.

She agreed to go forrepparttar 129003 treatments, chemotherapy and cesium, because she did not want to go throughrepparttar 129004 pains.

This was when she tookrepparttar 129005 time to look within her. She thought that she might not live long enough so she decided to reconnect with her children. It was not easy especially with her son who had gone through his own childhood trauma.

She turned to her family for moral support and she turned to God.

Now eight years later, she is still alive. Waking up and able to breathe for another day is a gift for her.

She has two grandchildren whom she adores and that give her much joy. She takes some jobs every now and then when her health permits and rests when she needs it.

Her question has changed. She now asks what is it she could do to get more out of what is left? Things happen and happen to us all. Life does not play favorites. Everyone has a story to tell.

It is how we handle it that matters. We do not have to wait until a major catastrophe interrupts us to think of what we should do with our lives.

It is up to us to make or break us. No one can tell our brain and mind what to do. No one can tell us what to think of and what to put inside our head.

We haverepparttar 129006 power to think what we want to think. To forget past hurts or to linger with them.

We can decide, plan and take action on what we want to have, do or be. At least whenrepparttar 129007 universe intervenes, we know that we have done our best.

Fatimah Musa provides information, tips and quotes written to help people become aware that any future growth starts with their personal growth. You can visit Fatimah at http://www.about-personal-growth.com


NICE GUYS FINISH FIRST - REALLY

Written by Jard DeVille


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Many persons try to succeed by usingrepparttar values, attitudes, expectations, and skills they chanced on in childhood. Unfortunately, in this age of relentless change, when power and authority are shared by more and more people, to depend on what you picked up as a youngster is a poor way to shape your life into a successful affair. In our conventional behavioral patterns many mistakes have been handed down from generation to generation. At home you were probably socialized not to ask embarrassing questions of your elders. At school you were expected to memorizerepparttar 128999 correct answers. And if you are like most people, you are still waiting for someone to askrepparttar 129000 right questions so you can show what a good student you were. Unfortunately for your welfare, no one is ever going to ask them, since most ofrepparttar 129001 answers you learned in school are no longer appropriate. Yet -- millions of men and women who would never imagine crossingrepparttar 129002 country by covered wagon instead of jet aircraft, who would never take some medicine man's snake-oil cure, try to succeed in life by using methods that were outdated a century ago. And then can’t understand why they aren't amongrepparttar 129003 successful achievers.

Today, men and women are having to cope with complex events that are affecting their lives in many crucial ways. Medicine, personal behavior, education, entertainment, sexual customs, engineering and business methods are all changing more rapidly than at any time in history. We no sooner get comfortable than life rolls over once again, forcing us to learn an entirely new set of attitudes, activities and relationships!

And yet, not one ofrepparttar 129004 changes sweeping over us like Pacific waves crashing onto a reef, has such critical implications when making one’s life count for something satisfying asrepparttar 129005 attitudes that people now hold toward power and control.

The John Wayne or John Rambo mystique (Tellrepparttar 129006 jerks what to do!) doesn't motivate competent persons any more. If it ever did! For example, sincerepparttar 129007 disasters caused by fightingrepparttar 129008 wrong people, inrepparttar 129009 wrong place, atrepparttar 129010 wrong time -- during America’s shameful wars against poor, dark-skinned Third World nations such as Vietnam, Libya, Panama, Granada, Lebanon, Somalia and others, many perceptive women and men have lost faith in our institutions. We see Congress and state Legislatures consistently selling out torepparttar 129011 highest bidder, business organizations disposing ofrepparttar 129012 faithful employees who do their best work atrepparttar 129013 drop of a point on Wall Street,repparttar 129014 criminal justice system with trigger-happy cops and politically ambitious district attorneys regularly convicting and legally murdering unfortunate, mostly poor, minority men who couldn’t possibly have committedrepparttar 129015 crimes for which they are being executed. The very flexible morality of primitive politicians, greedy business executives, powerful governmental officials and existentially enraged citizens who feelrepparttar 129016 execution of any minority man whether guilty or not is a good day’s work -- is a weak reed upon which to lean.

Every person with a smattering of intelligence realizes he or she is out there onrepparttar 129017 bubble -- pretty much alone -- on his or her own, much ofrepparttar 129018 time. Few of us withoutrepparttar 129019 support of government or great wealth haverepparttar 129020 power needed to demand cooperation from others. Not long ago a middle-aged local realtor told me of an experience he had with his youthful secretary. Dan said that Dianne was a hardworking, high-spirited employee who was competent and loyal enough to become his administrative assistant. He said, she reminded him ofrepparttar 129021 flippant young secretary inrepparttar 129022 T V series THE PRACTICE. But he began to notice, to his middle age displeasure, that she was dressing more and more casually, as if she were going to a picnic rather than to a business operation. So, he called her into his office and tactfully asked her to dress according to his code --repparttar 129023 long accepted business code set by such giants as I B M, General Motors and Honeywell. The young woman sat silently as he spoke, but when he finished, she stood up and said quite pointedly;

Who needs this crap in an informal business such as this?

Then she walked out of his office, returned to her desk, and continued to work harder and smarter for his small company than any assistant he had ever employed. As he relatedrepparttar 129024 story, Dan sighed deeply and said there was little he could do about her impertinence, unless he wanted to cut off his nose to spite his face. He could protect his ego against an outspoken girl -- could fire her of course, and really teach her a lesson, forcing her to take unemployment pay, a month or two of subsidized vacation, and get a job with a company that would not be so stuffy aboutrepparttar 129025 way she dressed. But, he would berepparttar 129026 real loser. He would spend a month trying to find a suitable replacement, another three or four months trying to helprepparttar 129027 newcomer learnrepparttar 129028 job, and another six months blaming himself for letting his ego cost him a year's efficiency in his office. He kept his mouth shut and retained a great assistant -- for he lackedrepparttar 129029 power to make her comply with his requirements. Indeed life does go on and we must adapt, must cope with reality in order to succeed, even if doing so makes us suspect thatrepparttar 129030 world is going to hell in a handcart, because humans hate change inordinately and yearn to freeze life as it was when we were learning it. Even when doing so costs us a bundle. Many people do just that because personal prestige is more important to themselves than performance or profits, but it quickly leads to dysfunctional families, schools, companies, churches and communities.

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Jard DeVille; Psyc. Dept. Chair at Westminster College; leadership psychology at the University of Arizona at Tucson; published psychology books, seminars and psychological assessment instruments. NICE GUYS FINISH FIRST was a best seller. He’s considered by many to be America’s foremost leadership scholar. Visit http://www.fulfillmentforum.com for FREE EBooks & EBiz Tools.


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