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For years, couples may be operating on assumptions they have never checked out with each other.
“I hate spinach.” “So do I.” “Why have we eaten it all these years?” “I thought you liked it.” “I thought you liked it.”
Free yourself from any spinach tyranny in your life. Ask yourself about everything you do:
Why am I doing it this way? Does this way make sense? Is there a better way? Is there a more fun way?
When we question assumptions, we then have a choice to perhaps behave and think in new ways. The more you question assumptions, more you may laugh at some silly things you may have been doing.
When a person or company becomes attuned to process of questioning assumptions, it will happen with greater and greater frequency. Those burned-in thought furrows in mind will begin to shift, and change, and mind will LULU.
Cause and Effect, Or Effect And Cause, or What?
One kind of questioning assumptions is questioning of cause and effect relationships. We often have these unexamined notions that A leads to B; we assume that B happens because A happened first. We set up these rules of cause and effect.
Turn these rules of cause and effect upside down — get unruly — to see if there is any truth, or humor, there. Where is cause and where is effect in these examples?
I yell so my dog gets nervous. Or maybe I yell because my dog is nervous, or a yelling person picks out nervous dogs.
I cannot go out in world and contribute because I feel sick. Or maybe I feel sick because I do not go out into world and contribute my skills and talents. Or person who is unlikely to get involved outside herself is likely to get sick.
The workplace is frenetic so I feel stressed. Or I feel stressed so my workplace is frenetic. Or a stress-prone person chooses frenetic workplaces.
Let us hear it for assumption questioners. May they live long, loosely, and lightly.
Little Lulu: A Role Model?
Do you remember irrepressible, feisty, lovable cartoon character Little Lulu? That girl had LULU down. She questioned everything. Yes, she had a bit of a rascal in her but most LULUers do. She had a great sense of humor. And did she question assumptions!
Remember what she did with her dad’s tie? She used it for tail on her kite. Her mom’s lipstick? She wrote letters with it. Remember Lulu, see if you can find a Lulu comic book, and let her inspire you to LULU.
Stephanie West Allen, JD, is the author of _24 7 This! The Merry Method To Accelerate Success_. Excerpts at http://www.allen-nichols.com/success.cfm She coaches people in using the two Merry Maxims, WYTUG (What You Think Upon Grows) and LULU (Loosen Up, Lighten Up), to achieve health, wealth, creativity, and harmonized relationships. Contact her at Stephanie@allen-nichols.com