Continued from page 1
3. Love Needs: Humans have a desire to belong to groups such as clubs, work groups, religious groups, families, or gangs. We need to feel non-sexual love by others and to be accepted by others---we need to be needed.
4. Esteem Needs: There is self-esteem that results from competence or mastery of a task and self-esteem from attention and recognition that comes from others. This is similar to belongingness level; however, desire for admiration has to do with need for power.
5. Self-Actualization: Self-actualization is desire to ultimately become everything that you are capable of becoming. When you reach this point, you literally have everything. Once everything is secure and satisfying, you can then begin to seek knowledge, peace, aesthetic experiences, and self-fulfillment. This is point at which you can achieve your personal goals and go after your vision.
--- Satisfying your needs. ---
Before you can chase your desires, achieving self-actualization, you must first satisfy basic needs. But, to satisfy your basic needs, you must evaluate your position in list of basic needs and determine how to satisfy them. Satisfying your needs can be anything from physical relocation to finding a new job or changing mates.
Satisfying your needs can occur in many different ways. Sometimes you're forced into it and, other times, you simply resolve them under your own control. It takes some evaluation of your current situation to accept and realize how to resolve these basic needs to move up in your levels of life. In my experiences, all of my basic needs were constantly shaken. Between death of my parents to destruction of my home by fire, I continued to find ways to resolve problems that plagued my security and safety. Once I was able to become strong enough to overcome and achieve, only then was I able to feel satisfaction that my basic needs were met.
--- What's next? ---
The reason so many people are stuck in one place in their life has to do with fact that they have not satisfied basic requirements of hierarchy of needs. People who are in bad jobs, making barely enough money to make ends meet, are unable to move into next level of love or self-esteem. They are stuck because they have not made it to a level that they can pursue their own desires.
Call it "rights of passage" or simply "getting out of muck." Whatever you call it, you must be able to determine how to satisfy your most basic needs before you can ever reach a level to pursue your own, personal desires. Once you have satisfied basic levels of existence and risen to top of ladder, you are able to move out into other areas of life that are important to you.
It is important to be able to satisfy your "needs" before you can acquire your "wants." Don't give up as there is a way to dig out and get to top. You just have to evaluate your situation, make a plan, and determine how to make it happen for yourself.
Edward B. Toupin is a writer and inspirational coach living in the Entertainment Capital of the World. He works with individuals to help them realize their potential and establish the directions that will bring them the most fulfillment. His upcoming e-book, "Align Your Life," provides insight into various aspects of life with some solutions to consider to help you move forward. Contact Edward at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.