The music orients dance. It tells us when we begin and when we stop and what dance we’ll do. APPLICATION: Time is a kind of background ‘noise’ at work. Everything you do is oriented in some way around time. It’s no good to write a pleading if you don’t get it filed on time. Your grant won’t be accepted, even if it’s excellent, if you don’t get it submitted before deadline. Time dictates how fast you work and defines what you can accomplish. You can write a 500 word article in an hour, but you can’t write a 500 page novel in an hour. 7.Etiquette.

The polka is a strenuous dance and after a while you start to sweat. Who wants to dance with someone who’s sopping wet and smells bad? Likewise who wants to dance with a woman who fights for lead, someone who wipes their nose and then takes your hand, or a 6’4” in man who takes huge strides you can’t keep up with? APPLICATION: Common courtesy greases wheels of any joint project. This involves being sensitive to what’s going on with other person, being able to give and take, practicing good personal hygiene, maintaining healthy boundaries, and knowing how avoid and resolve conflict. 8.The Metarules.

Meta rules are rules about rules. We’re learning learning dance steps, but there are also studio rules. One is that you change partners. Another is that you smile and look pleasant as you dane. The first metarule is written down. The other one you just learn, either by picking it up, or by not doing it and being corrected.

APPLICATION: All systems have metarules. A metarule in a family may be that kids know if they want something from dad, not to ask him when he first comes homes from work. It may be a metarule at your office that rules in policies manual aren’t followed. The policies manual says promotions are based on merit, but everyone knows how they’re really given. 9.You Aren’t Alone.

When you dance there are other couples on floor and man has to keep couple out of harm’s way. Everyone has to move in same direction, with faster couples on outside. APPLICATION: You aren’t alone in workplace either. You can picture it like a dance floor. Everyone’s moving together, but also in their own pattern and you have to make sure two don’t clash. You have to be aware of others, keep out of their way, and avoid hitting them. 10.Learning Styles.

The West Coast Swing is a dance that’s particularly hard for men to learn. I’ve tried different ways to help partner I’m with and what works for one man doesn’t work for another. One man learns by watching, another if you actually move his legs for him.

APPLICATION: You’ll greatly increase your chances of success in working with another person if you’re able to change your style to suit their personality and accommodate to what works with them. This requires empathy and creativity as you try something, observe how it works and then adjust.

There are many methods by which this can be easily done. I will discuss one method here. 1)Put posters on walls of your bedroom, with affirmative statements. This poster(s) should be clearly visible to you. You can also use same poster in you office or place your work. The bottom line is your mind must be kept alarmed about a new command more often until it starts believing it to be true. If you can convince your mind to obey new affirmation then you are done. If used positively autosuggestions can be an excellent way to take charge of our lives to in any unhappy situation. Remember that never use negative statements. Because your mind will believe it to be true and recreate reality which is negative for you. There are two major point you should remember while framing your affirmations or autosuggestions. 1)Always use "I" in your statement 2)Keep statement in present tense.

Let's see an example. If I want to change my money beliefs I can use a statement "I OPEN MYSELF TO RECEIVE ALL THE RICHES I DESEREV" OR "I AM WELATHY AND PROSPEROUS". Both these are statements are direct and in present tense. Instead of saying "I WILL" be prosperous someday, this statement forces mind to believe that "I AM" already in position to receive riches I deserve, thus eliminating chances of believing that solution will be sometime in future. Your mind will start absorbing this new "command" moment you begin.

Thus autosuggestions can be used to change any unhappy situation in our life such as personal relationships, finances, health, bad habits etc.