===== EFT for Patience in Eating

While tapping P.R. (psychological reversal) point say,

"Even though I want to eat cake, except I'm not supposed to because it's for tomorrow's dinner party, I deeply and completely accept myself."

Repeat that statement three times and say it like you mean it.

Then tap rest of face and body points, using a short reminder such as, "eat cake." The entire time think about that cake and how much you want it and how delicious it would be. Make it as strong a desire as you can (this is how EFT gets a strong neuropathway to disrupt so don't fear you'll make your cravings stronger, it actually will do opposite).

"Even though I can't stand waiting, I choose to give myself permission to wait."

Reminder: "Can't wait."

"Even though I hate this waiting and I'm going to stick my face in it right now, I deeply and completely accept myself anyway."

Reminder: "Hate being told what to do."

"Even though I can't seem to deny myself what I want, I deeply and completely love and accept myself and give myself permission to wait."

Reminder: "Can't deny."

Practice this on some food or beverage that seems to call to you, and see whether it helps ease that pull. If you are reluctant because you are afraid you'll lose desire for completely (and this is you favorite food so you don't want that to happen), don't worry. That's not going to happen. You may come to want it less often and certainly you'll no longer feel a compulsive need for it, but most people discover they still enjoy food just as much, they just no longer feel out-of-control about it. The control issue is what is being addressed. The desire or compulsion to have something that seems beyond a rational desire, that is what you are working to reduce.

Smile today at every person you see, and practice patience. Think of an inside joke, remember a happy moment, or a funny movie you saw. Put a happy memory in your head and carry it around with you, then whenever you see someone just smile to yourself. Even in crowded stores, people will treat you better when you put a happy bubble around yourself, and you'll lift their spirits as well.

~~ Kathryn Martyn, M.NLP, EFT coach and author of Changing Beliefs, Your First Step to Permanent Weight Loss lost 80 pounds over 17 years ago. Learn how she lost the weight and maintains that weight loss at http://www.OneMoreBite-Weightloss.com

In practice of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) one common exercise in known as establishing a Well Formed Outcome. "Well formed" meaning it meets all criteria of a well thought out end result. Here are steps to deteremining a well formed outcome: 1) State what you want (not what you do not want).

2) Determine whether you can achieve it (do you believe it is possible?).

3) What resources do you have and what do you need (time, money, space, clothing, equipment).

4) Check whether anyone else is involved and any potential obstacles that may come up regarding others.

5) Picture yourself "as if" you've obtained what you say you want and decide if that picture fits.

6) Putting together a plan of action for achievement of your outcome.

While it may seem like a lot of effort simply to decide what you really want, going through these steps help you determine what potential obstacles there may be. If you decide you want to join a gym and start exercising every day but forget you don't own a car and just lost your job, that plan might not work out. Better to look at it from every angle, then put together a plan you know can work and will work. By deciding what you want, it becomes much easier to take necessary steps to make it become a reality.

Whether you want to overcome your addiction to sugar or you want to learn to swim, it all starts with this process, first determining what you really want and then a series of steps to be sure it's a good fit for you. Try this process no matter what decision you are making and you'll easily discover obstacles that you can handle first thereby ensuring better success overall!

This process is called "Achieving a Well Formed Outcome" and is one of sessions in Ending Emotional Eating 8-Week Workshop. You can also find more information on this popular and well known NLP process by searching for "NLP Well Formed Outcome" in your favorite search engine.

~~ Kathryn Martyn, M.NLP, EFT coach and author of Changing Beliefs, Your First Step to Permanent Weight Loss lost 80 pounds over 17 years ago. Learn how she lost the weight and maintains that weight loss at http://www.OneMoreBite-Weightloss.com