SOCIAL PROGRAMMING OR CONSCIENCE

Once we have established particular situations or stimuli that obstruct our feelings of self-worth or self-acceptance, we will need to separate our answers into two groups.

1. Those which have to do with * social programming * and not with our conscience. In such a case, we need to analyze each reason separately as we attempt to discover and change beliefs that cause us to lose our self-acceptance in those situations.

When we lose our feelings of self-worth because of social programming we are buying into societies illusions concerning who is worthy and who is not. We are measuring ourselves by superficial standards set by society such as money, appearance profession etc, and not by our conscience, such as honesty, love, sincerity, selflessness etc.

2. Situations in which we reject ourselves because our * actions are not in alignment with our inner conscience *. We behave toward others, as we would not like them to behave toward us. Our answers to 10 and 11 in first questionnaire might indicate such situations.

In such cases, we are interested in how we could react differently in those situations so that our behavior is in tune with our conscience.

In these second cases which have to do with conscience, we will most often find that we behave in such ways because we are being controlled by previous categories if social beliefs.

For example we tell lies (matter of conscience) because we believe that our self-worth depends on what others think about us and thus want to hide truth from them

The final solution for matter of self-worth is to realize that all beings deserve love and respect exactly as they are regardless of all their flaws simply because they are unique aspects of divine creation- just as all flowers and all of nature.

In such a case, we must not confuse one?s ability and/or morality with worthiness of love and respect. As aspects of divine creation all deserve love and respect regardless of ability or morality.

The difference is that those who have ability deserve positions of greater responsibility that those without. While those without morality do deserve our love and respect they may not deserve trust or freedom to move about in society, until they are healed of their problem.

For more thoughts on this extremely vital and extensive subject click here.

http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/research/selfacceptance.html

(Adapted from "The Psychology of Happiness" by Robert Najemy available at http://www.Amazon.com and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com. This book and other writings can be viewed at http://www.HolisticHarmony.com where you can also download FREE articles and e-books.)

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******** Forgive Yourself ******** -3 drops Rose otto -8 drops Sandalwood -5 drops Geranium -4 drops Sage

Anoint heart chakra and solar plexus. Pour a few drops into your warm bath water and soak for at least 15 minutes. Pour a few drops into palm of your hands and inhale deeply.

Affirmation: "Any negative or unhealthy attitudes from my part toward others are forgiven and healed."

******** Understanding ******** -3 drops Rose otto -6 drops Sandalwood -3 drops German Chamomile -5 drops Frankincense

Anoint heart chakra, solar plexus and third eye. Pour a few drops into your warm bath water and soak for at least 15 minutes. Pour a few drops into palm of your hands and inhale deeply.

Affirmation: "I understand others and accept and love them for who they are."

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