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Create space for intimacy
Make space in your schedule for intimacy. I know it doesn't sound very romantic or spontaneous. But if you are like most North American working women today, if you don't "pencil in" some romance time, you might find it just doesn't happen. You'll find that when a "date night" is in your calendar, you start to look forward to it and that can become a turn-on. And scheduling time to connect with your partner at a deeper level than "what's for dinner" and "who's picking up kids?" will boost your intimacy quotient.
Remember "me time"
Before there is "us" time, there needs to be "me" time. In other words, take an interest in your personal needs and give yourself permission to take care of you first. This is an essential building block for an intimate and giving relationship with someone else. When you are feeling valued, relaxed, healthy, and worry-free, you'll have more of yourself to share with someone special. To get your intimate life where you want it to be, it's important to know what you want. Consider following questions: What does romance mean to me? What does intimacy mean to me? Is it same or different than romance? Do I want more romance in my life? Using your answers as a guide, commit to one thing you will do this week to keep your fires burning.
Lisa Martin is the author of Briefcase Moms:10 Proven Practices to Balance Working Mothers’ Lives. A working mother with 20 years of corporate and entrepreneurial experience, she is the founder and president of Briefcase Moms, an international coaching and personal development company with a mission to “make it easier for working mothers to live balanced and successful lives.” www.briefcasemoms.com