Just What Do We Mean by ABUSE Anyway?

Written by Rosella Aranda

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• Oglingrepparttar child in a state of undress • Making sexual observations about someone’s body These are all inappropriate behaviors and they leaverepparttar 149031 child feeling very confused and uneasy. They might not understand why they feel bad, but it becomes a great source of discomfort from there on out. EMOTIONAL ABUSE IS DIFFICULT TO DETECT The most difficult type of abuse to identify is emotional or psychological in nature. It is very subtle and difficult to recognize because so much of it is a non-behavior, such as giving someonerepparttar 149032 cold shoulder orrepparttar 149033 silent treatment, or simply not being present. The fact that a parent may be doing something legitimate like working and not just hanging out in some bar does nothing to alterrepparttar 149034 fact thatrepparttar 149035 child is deprived of his parent’s company, guidance and affection. A parent can be physically present but emotionally unavailable. Some parents may have too many responsibilities and not enough time or energy for their children. Others are simply ill-equipped to offer proper nurturance or psychological support. The term emotional orphan comes to mind. Another thing that makes emotional abuse hard to pinpoint is repparttar 149036 fact thatrepparttar 149037 victim is not outwardly mangled. Emotionally abusive behaviors include: • yelling • belittling, criticizing • blocking, stifling • too demanding of perfection • domineering, controlling • name-calling, ridiculing, mocking • not taking interest, ignoring • not showing affection or physical contact • constant complaining about providing necessities • general absence or unavailability. Threats of abandonment or withdrawal of love are very frightening and a very cruel form of discipline. Other forms of psychological abuse are over-protection, adulation and overly doting behaviors. And then there is over-reliance on a child, referred to as emotional incest, whererepparttar 149038 child is used to fulfill a void left by an absent partner. All of these behaviors distort healthy development and growth. Muddled boundaries make it difficult to form and sustain healthy human relationships later in life. Now, using these parameters, it’s safe to say thatrepparttar 149039 vast majority of people have been abused to one degree or another. Unfortunately, these types of behavior are far too common and many of us have been affected more deeply than we care to admit. However, until we acknowledgerepparttar 149040 truth of our personal history, we will continue to expend tremendous amounts of psychic energy trying to squelchrepparttar 149041 pain of these subconscious wounds. Inrepparttar 149042 meantime, it is my hope that a greater understanding of how much long-term damage these behaviors cause might prevent us from perpetuating such mistreatment. With a bit of attention and intention,repparttar 149043 abuse can stop here.

Rosella Aranda, international marketer, editor, author, helps entrepreneurs escape their limitations. See her newest ebook at http://www.SabotageThyselfNoMore.com/ For more on how to harness your mental power, visit http://www.FromThoughtsToRiches.com/

Does Your Job Need a D.I.E.T.

Written by Jacqueline Ennis

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Keep in mind; Titanium Time is time you have decided not spend with anyone but yourself. Be it alone at home or with hundreds of people at an amusement park. The point is; this is YOUR Time and YOUR Time alone no matter how you decided to spend it!

Whenever you can, put your job, your children, your husband/wife on a D.I.E.T.. This is not total selfishness, it is simply not neglecting your personal self.

Neglecting one’s self, is as self starvation. When you don’t dorepparttar things needed to take care of you, your emotions begin to drag and in time you become depressed.

Be aware that D.I.E.T. Times are not always readily available, you may have to seize that personal time whenrepparttar 148977 opportunity presents itself.

For instance, your lunch break, it does not have to always be spent with colleagues and friends.

Once in a while skiprepparttar 148978 usual lunch hangout full of people who can eat up your D.I.E.T. Time.

Spend that time with yourself; a good book (HOLY BIBLE) or put a fresh coat of polish on your nails.

Time spent alone can be celebrated with inner peace. Which in turn makes for a better employee. (do you see a PROMOTION forth coming?)

Personally I suggest you use Dedicated Time for family first and friends second. The amount of time you spend on yourself, your family and friends denotesrepparttar 148979 value you put on each.

In essence Dedicated Time Individual Time Effective Time Titanium Time Makes for a better human being inside which manifest’s itself in your family, personal, and business relationships.

Jacqueline Ennis is the Publisher of Body By Baby.

Body By Baby is a FREE E-Zine deciated to support women whose bodies has changed do to childbearing.

You're welcome to "reprint" this article as long as it remains complete and unaltered (including the resource box at the end), and you send me a copy or link to your reprint at


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