Self Help: It's That Time Of Year

It's That Time Of Year

Written by Helaine Iris

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First, I notice that transitions are hard for me, making a shift from one state to another from daily engagement with husband to independence. Second, I get lost in repparttar

anticipated story about what a pain it is to do "all" repparttar 130416

work myself. I start to feel left behind and sorry for myself. Third, I wonder what in repparttar 130417

world I'm going to do to entertain myself during repparttar 130418

time we usually spend together. The mental energy it takes to consider and worry about all these things is considerable, no wonder I dread this time. What life situation are you resisting or dreading? Here's how I've learned to work with this and other opportunities that challenge my comfort zone. (It's only taken me 16 years): 1. I slow my thoughts WAY down. I invite all repparttar 130419

petty and worrisome thoughts to come to repparttar 130420

surface to be heard. I do my best not to judge them, I simply notice them. 2. I inquire into my beliefs to find truth and disqualify repparttar 130421

beliefs or stories that turn out to be false. 3. Then, I make a list of all repparttar 130422

things I enjoy, look forward to, or seldom have a chance to experience. Then, I and go into action. I ask for help with repparttar 130423

tasks I need help with. I remind my friends I'm extra available for outings. By repparttar 130424

time I get through step three I'm energized and looking forward to my time alone. Even though I still feel sad repparttar 130425

day he pulls away, I can be with all of my feelings and know I'm fine. My deep winter alone time has become a period for me to remember my strength, find companionship and enjoyment with myself, and reprioritize what's important to me. It's become a welcome time of reflection, reevaluation and reemersion with my own best friend, me. It's YOUR life...imagine repparttar 130426

possibilities!

Helaine Iris is a certified Life Coach, writer and teacher that loves her life. She works with individuals, and self-employed professionals, who want to thrive in their business while crafting a life that's in absolute alignment with their highest ideals, deepest values and gracefully masters the complexities of modern living. For a solution focused complimentary session visit her website http://www.pathofpurpose.com or call her 603-357-8546 or email her helaine@pathofpurpose.com

Laughing Toward Truth: Six Tips for Lighthearted Thinkers

Written by Maya Talisman Frost

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Leave it to Albert to maintain that crucial sense of humor and humility. The more we know, repparttar more we get a clue about how much we don't know. At least, that's repparttar 130414 way it's supposed to work. You probably know people who haven't quite come around to that realization yet. Get there now. Accept it, celebrate it, and keep on thinking.

#3 "Believe those who are seeking repparttar 130415 truth; doubt those who find it." Andre Gide, French writer

Your best bet is to hang out with those who are happy to admit that they don't have all repparttar 130416 answers. As friends, co-workers and party guests, they tend to be a lot more fun, anyway.

#4 "Chase after repparttar 130417 truth like all hell and you'll free yourself, even though you never touch its coattails." Clarence Darrow, American attorney

Play repparttar 130418 game and have some fun with it, even if you never score. Remember playing games with your friends way back when you were five? You didn't have a clear sense of repparttar 130419 rules or even repparttar 130420 point of repparttar 130421 game, and neither did anyone else. It didn't matter. The reason you were playing was to simply enjoy repparttar 130422 game, even if that meant making it up as you went along.

Approach truth-seeking like a five-year-old playing a new game. Don't get caught up in repparttar 130423 regulations, and don't keep score. Who cares who's winning?

#5 "And we should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once. And we should call every truth false which was not accompanied by at least one laugh." Friedrich Nietzsche, German philosopher

Nietzsche saluted repparttar 130424 creative force that feeds us. Despite a life of ill health and misery, he recognized repparttar 130425 value of joy in repparttar 130426 seeking of truth. Most of us have it a whole lot easier than Nietzsche. We have no excuse for not laughing.

#6 "Truth is mighty and will prevail. There is nothing repparttar 130427 matter with this, except that it ain't so." Mark Twain, American writer

Truth doesn't rise to repparttar 130428 surface. You've got to dig for it. Truth doesn't automatically rule; fallacies with excellent public relations campaigns tend to dominate in our culture.

Truth isn't easy, but it isn't supposed to be. If you want to dive into repparttar 130429 human experience in all its glory, you're going to be wading through a lot of ideas masquerading as repparttar 130430 truth.

Think for yourself, and have some fun with it. Look for truth in repparttar 130431 unlikeliest places. Find repparttar 130432 absurdity in every idea.

The best philosophers have loads of laugh lines. Start creating yours. You'll become a better thinker, a happier truth-seeker, and a more excellent human.

Maya Talisman Frost is a mind masseuse. Her work has inspired thinkers in over 70 countries around the world. She serves up a unique blend of clarity, comfort and comic relief in her free weekly ezine, the Friday Mind Massage. To subscribe, visit http://www.massageyourmind.com.

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