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OK, OK...so you still go home to your lady who's waiting so patiently. But now your mind is on girl you left behind in club and you're thinking of what might have been. Even though you haven't been physically unfaithful to your partner, you may already have committed adultery in your mind.
But nothing happened, you protest. Maybe not this time and maybe even not next time. But seed has been planted. And your woman knows this. She knows intuitively and senses subtle changes which have occurred in your relationship. She may smell lingering scent of perfume and she knows that scent wouldn't be there unless you were having physical contact with someone else.
Even without telltale scent of another woman, no matter how cleverly you may think you're hiding your thoughts, you can't keep your lady from sensing something has changed. She may not tell you, but now her mind is working overtime and she's thinking things over. She may not behave as if anything is different between two of you, but deep inside her she knows something has changed.
Before you know it, she's accusing you of infidelity because she senses it and sees all signs of it. It doesn't matter if it really happened or not. The point is, you've subconsciously given her some subtle sign that, for one brief moment, your thoughts were on another woman and now she has reason to doubt you...especially if she detected scent of strange perfume on your shirt. That alone is all reason she needs to be suspicious.
An occasional night out with guys will usually not make a huge difference in your relationship, particularly if your lady is open-minded and understanding that you need your time with guys. But if you tell her, in so many words, that you are going to continue going out with guys on a regular basis whether she likes it or not, she's simply going to think she's not very important to you and other things in your life will take precedence over your relationship with her. That is not a good seed to plant in her mind if you want to have a long-term relationship with her.
Most women don't want to control your life or take over your life completely. After all, she needs her time away from you as well. She does, however, want to be center of your life and more important to you than anything else. If you regularly show her she's your first priority, it goes a long way toward building a strong, healthy, trusting relationship with her. By never giving her reason to feel insecure in relationship and proving to her you love her more than anything or anyone else, she will never have any reason not to trust you and love you share will become even stronger.
Copyright 2005 Deborah Willis All Rights Reserved http://moonshadowmarketing.com/attractwomen.htm
ABOUT THE AUTHOR Deborah Willis is the author of ATTRACT WOMEN -- The Average Man's Guide to Attracting, Dating, Loving, and Maintaining Relationships with Women. For more insight into how the female mind works, visit http://moonshadowmarketing.com/attractwomen.htm This article may be freely reprinted as long as the article resource is left intact and there is a live link to the author's web site.