Science shows us that there is a gap of approximately .25 seconds between stimulus and response. Before reacting to something, it is essential that we take that fraction of a second to stop and think about what we are seeing, how we are feeling and what an appropriate response would be. Then we are in a position to make a true choice by choosing our response. In almost all cases, chosen response is different from reactive response.

In this way we make choices that are congruent with our own values and principles and without a doubt, over time, results will be extraordinary! We begin to feel in control, good things begin to happen and we assume role of masters of our destiny. We feel better about ourselves and begin to manifest all of things that we truly want in our lives. It is at this point that we invoke Universal Law and all of our hopes and dreams become possible!

So stop playing victim and complaining about how difficult things are. Quit blaming others for everything that is wrong in life – bosses, parents, siblings and, yes, even lousy drivers among others, make easy targets - but they are not problem! Take charge of your feelings, responses and thinking and most of all take responsibility for your life. No one is coming to save you - only you can improve your lot in life and only through being responsible and making different choices!

So how do you stop being like that? First thing to do is to recognise when you are making these assumptions and when they are patently false, and put some kind of system in place to prevent yourself from getting caught up in negative cycle. One useful technique is Emotional Release technique taught in Sedona Method where you can quicly overcome obsessive nature that can sometimes come from error. Another way is to understand why you have schemas you do and to change them: often they are out of date and are not actually helpful (as they are supposed to be). They are also linked to 'gremlins' (if you're British you might know term from recent spate of adverts on TV advertising education) - but that's a future article. Fundamentally though, to overcome harmful errors, it is all about understanding when you make them and stopping them spiral out of control.