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When my mother went over
dating rules with me as a young teenager, she added, “And you make decision what you’re going to do right here, sitting at kitchen table, not in back seat of a car, because then you won’t be thinking.”
Will power is a term that’s gone out of favor, but we do have a “will” – ability to make decisions and hold to them. We also have personal power to manage our emotions and those of others’ under most pressing of circumstances.
Other pressure situations might be being asked to do something illegal at work, being tempted to do something unethical, feeling angry enough to hit someone, having an opportunity for an affair, investing in stock market, resisting drinking when you’re in recovery, or going to work when you’d rather go fishing.
Emotional intelligence includes Intentionality, and other competencies such as intuition, creativity, resilience, impulse control and stress management. These competencies can be learned and there are assessments to tell you where your strengths and weaknesses are.
Developing your EQ allows you to put in a floodgate when you threaten to be overcome with emotions, which is called “neural hijacking.” This is when emotions swamp you to point where you make decisions or do things that are harmful to yourself or others.
EQ matters more to your success and happiness than IQ. Why not make it one of your goals this year to increase your emotional intelligence?
Susan Dunn helps clients get organized and succeed with the Don't Die By 50 Weekly Organizational Calendar, Gooding Accountability System, coaching, Internet courses. Visit her on the web at www.susandunn.cc and mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for FREE ezine.
