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YET LISTENING IS THE FORGOTTEN ART.
Don't you find it fascinating that some people have all answers before they've heard question? Most people do not listen with intent to understand - they listen with intent to reply. The first rule of skillful listening is - Don't start thinking about your reply before other person has exhausted their entire view or feelings.
Most people try to be interesting when they should be interested. The truly successful communicator is a curious person. They want to know more about what other people think and feel. They are truly fascinated by what other people can share with them.
HOW TO MAKE PEOPLE FEEL YOU UNDERSTAND:
Use following "perception checking" questions. Try this exercise with a friend or someone you trust.
Person 1 Start talking about any subject for 4 or 5 sentences. Person 2 When first person stops talking, repeat back to them what you thought you heard, starting with phrases like: I want to be sure I understand what you are saying. It sounds like . . . What I hear you saying, if I understand you correctly is . . . I want to make sure I am hearing what you are saying . . .
People like people who make them feel special. Listening to a person makes them feel special. When you make them feel special, they then view you as special. This causes their interest in you, your dreams and goals to increase dramatically. They become more willing to help you achieve your goals and objectives.
SOMETIMES DREAMS NEED A LITTLE HELP
Let's face it, in America one can achieve just about any dream. But, sometimes a dream needs a little help from others. The cooperation you need from others will be in direct relation to your willingness to listen to story of their own dreams and ambitions.
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