Is It A Crisis Or Does It Just Feel Like OneWritten by Dr. Dorree Lynn
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Many events that feel like a crisis can be handled with time or may propel you to seek help. For example, your long term lover has suddenly walked out, school has called to inform you that your child has Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), your sister calls to tell you that she thinks you have never loved her, your boss has reneged on promotion he promised you, your spouse wants a divorce, or your father is ill and dying. Again, I urge you to remember that these are not crises, they only feel that way. The sense of intolerable pain can usually be tolerated long enough to evaluate your feelings and determine whether or not you need help. You need time to sort out what you feel, what is real, what you can or should do, and, possibly, your portion of responsibility in these events. Very little must be done in moment. Often a little extra time in short-term can avoid long-term mistakes. Life is too hard to do alone, Dr. D. Dorree Lynn, PH.D.
Dr. Dorree Lynn is co-founder of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy and a practicing clinician in New York and Washington, DC. Dr. Lynn served on the executive board of the American Academy of Psychotherapists and she is on the editorial board of their publication, Voices. She is also a regular columnist for the Washington, DC newspaper, The Georgetowner. Dr. Lynn is a noted speaker and well known on the lecture circuit.
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My mother never understood specialness of these outings. Actually, neither of my parent’s did. She knew I was away for day and therefore I was not underfoot. And, he had a companion, not son he wanted, but I did best I could to give him joy he wished for. Baseball became our bond as it also became part of my lifeblood. Father’s Day, 2001 years after both my parent’s death: They are gone but baseball is still with me. The guys in my psychotherapy practice are often surprised at how much I know and how passionate I get discussing game. We wander into discussions of how much game has changed. We debate appropriateness of player’s now mega salaries. We argue plays and groan or applaud a home run. The men who have entrusted their lives to my professional skills and I bond. I have my dad’s baseball education to thank for that ability. I could never be son he wanted. I haven’t forgotten pain of always knowing that. But, for now grownup grandmother who as a small girl tried to be what her dad wanted, baseball remains. I am grateful for that gift. Life is too hard to do alone, Dr. D. Dorree Lynn, PH.D.
Dr. Dorree Lynn is co-founder of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy and a practicing clinician in New York and Washington, DC. Dr. Lynn served on the executive board of the American Academy of Psychotherapists and she is on the editorial board of their publication, Voices. She is also a regular columnist for the Washington, DC newspaper, The Georgetowner. Dr. Lynn is a noted speaker and well known on the lecture circuit.
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