Internet Marketing Psychology & Intriguing Facts

Written by Steven Hands - "The Mind Manipulation Marketer"

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Exercise #2 - Close your eyes momentarily and forrepparttar period of approximately 1 minute I want you to do try and achieverepparttar 126139 following.

I want you to think of a red rose for 1 minute. Do it now.

This task was relatively easy huh? Now torepparttar 126140 point ofrepparttar 126141 exercise..

The focusing ofrepparttar 126142 red rose was relatively easy enough,repparttar 126143 second exercise also holdsrepparttar 126144 key torepparttar 126145 first exercise of NOT focusing onrepparttar 126146 black dog. The most effective way to NOT think of something is to think of something else.

Most importantly, we need to be aware that not thinking of something actually focusesrepparttar 126147 goal oriented part ofrepparttar 126148 mind on that very thing, just as effectively as if you had chosen to think of it directly.

One can observerepparttar 126149 principle of this exercise at work very effectively when parents walk their children home from school, they tell their children NOT to jump inrepparttar 126150 puddles right? But almost as if you could set a clock by it, your kids are back doing exactly what you told them NOT to do, yep they are jumping inrepparttar 126151 puddles.

Byrepparttar 126152 parent saying to their children, don't jump inrepparttar 126153 puddles, this drawsrepparttar 126154 kids attention directly torepparttar 126155 puddles and in they go. Thenrepparttar 126156 parents haverepparttar 126157 cheek to get upset atrepparttar 126158 children after they have quite effectively, if somewhat unconsciously directed them straight intorepparttar 126159 puddles.

So how do you keep your children from jumping inrepparttar 126160 puddles you ask?

Think about it for a moment. The mind is a goal orientated decision making tool, you wantrepparttar 126161 mind to focus away fromrepparttar 126162 puddles, where do you wantrepparttar 126163 mind to go? Onrepparttar 126164 dry ground of course, sorepparttar 126165 effective thing to say is "keep onrepparttar 126166 dry ground", this focusesrepparttar 126167 mind ofrepparttar 126168 child onrepparttar 126169 dry ground and not onrepparttar 126170 puddles.

Have you ever seen a child carrying a full bowl of soup? What isrepparttar 126171 natural reaction?

You shout "don't spillrepparttar 126172 bowl of soup" right? But by doing so, what hasrepparttar 126173 child's mind registered?

Yes, you are telling him to spillrepparttar 126174 soup by focusing his mind on spilling it, then there is insult added to injury when you say "you clumsy kid, why didn't you do what I told you"? So not only doesrepparttar 126175 child feel guilty for making a mess, he or she then gets a negative affirmation as well.

So how do you getrepparttar 126176 child to NOT spillrepparttar 126177 soup? Think what do I wantrepparttar 126178 child's mind to do andrepparttar 126179 answer is "keeprepparttar 126180 soup bowl level".

Focusrepparttar 126181 mind towardsrepparttar 126182 required task, invariably this will focus their mind away fromrepparttar 126183 negative result that you instilled in their mind.

This is a very powerful psychological concept that can be effectively implemented into your internet marketing campaigns. If you want your customers to do something, maybe telling them not to do it may be more effective in certain situations, definitely "food forrepparttar 126184 taught". This approach would also help to instil one ofrepparttar 126185 most powerful action emotions also, curiosity :)

Two very different sides torepparttar 126186 same coin, sit and ponder on this theory for a while, think ofrepparttar 126187 many possibilities and how you could make it work for you and your internet marketing campaigns.

About The Author Ė Written by Steven Hands ďThe Mind Manipulation MarketerĒ. Come join Stevenís free monthly newsletter @ and implement these powerful psychological triggers into your internet marketing game.

Emotional Dependency or Emotional Responsibility

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

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However, if you are emotionally responsible, you will feel and respond entirely differently. The first thing you might do is to tell yourself that another personís anger has nothing to do with you. Perhaps that person is having a bad day and is taking it out on you. Perhaps that person is feeling hurt or inadequate and is trying to be one-up by putting you one-down. Whateverrepparttar reason forrepparttar 126138 otherís anger, it is about them rather than about you. An emotionally responsible person does not take othersí behavior personally, knowing that we have no control over othersí feelings and behavior, and that we do not cause others to feel and behaverepparttar 126139 way they do - that others are responsible for their feelings and behavior just as we are for ours.

The next thing an emotionally responsible person might do is move into compassion forrepparttar 126140 angry person, and open to learning about what is going on withrepparttar 126141 other person. For example, you might say, ďI donít like your anger, but I am willing to understand what is upsetting you. Would you like to talk about it?Ē Ifrepparttar 126142 person refuses to stop being angry, or if you know ahead of time that this person is not going to open up, then as an emotionally responsible person, you would take loving action in your own behalf. For example, you might say, ďIím unwilling to be atrepparttar 126143 other end of your anger. When you are ready to be open with me, let me know. Meanwhile, Iím going to take a walk (or hang uprepparttar 126144 phone, or leaverepparttar 126145 restaurant, or go intorepparttar 126146 other room, and so on). An emotionally responsible person gets out of range of attack rather than tries to changerepparttar 126147 other person.

Once out of range,repparttar 126148 emotionally responsible person goes inside and explores any painful feelings that might have resulted fromrepparttar 126149 attack. For example, perhaps you are feeling lonely as a result of being attacked. An emotionally responsible person embracesrepparttar 126150 feelings of loneliness with understanding and compassion, holding them just as you would hold a sad child. When you acknowledge and embracerepparttar 126151 feelings of loneliness, you allow them to move through you quickly, so you can move back into peace.

Rather than being a victim ofrepparttar 126152 otherís behavior, you have taken emotional responsibility for yourself. Instead of staying stuck in feeling angry, hurt, blaming, afraid, anxious or inadequate, you have moved yourself back into feeling safe and peaceful.

When you realize that your feelings are your responsibility, you can move out of emotional dependency. This will make a huge difference within you and with all of your relationships. Relationships thrive when each person moves out of emotional dependency and into emotional responsibility.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" She is the co-creator of a powerful self-help, 6-step emotional and spiritual healing process called Inner Bonding. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: or

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