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2.Set a limit
I know it may seem obvious, but most Parents don’t do it. Set a limit you are willing to spend on your child and let them know. Tell them that you want to feel good about Christmas too and that you are only willing to spend this much because Christmas is about so much more. Be very clear that no matter what, you will not go over that limit.
3.What do they really think it will give them?
If they still continue to pester and pester, ask this question, “What do you think having that will give you?” I know you may stump them, but they will answer and if they don’t know, then why do they want it in
first place? When they tell you what they think having that thing will give them, ask them how they can get more of that into their lives now. When we do this we realise that actually we did not want
thing, but only
quality we thought
thing would give us.
4.Encourage entrepreneurism
Now this one will really stop them, if they continue to ask, say that you are not prepared to pay for it and ask how you can support them in getting it. Now first they may turn to all
illegal things and they may need some prompting. You may need to ask how they can get
money; encourage their creativity. Maybe they will sell things on E-bay, train others how to use Excel or build websites for others.
5.Giving vs. receiving
I play this game all
time with my 7-year-old. I teach her about giving and receiving and how they fit together. How, if you want to let something into your life, you need to let go of something in return. So when she asks for something, I ask what she wants to give in return. Now I don’t do this to be mean or have her think about lack, I have it to open her up to
fact that money moves - it is not stagnant. I want her to understand
concept of giving and not just that of receiving. I can tell you, it has an amazing effect, She often changes her mind, she realises that she does not want it that much so she leaves it. When she wrote her Christmas list this year,
first thing that she asked for was something for someone else. So use this concept, start a system of giving versus receiving. They may not respond at first. but keep trying it. Use it yourself first, start showing your child how you yourself incorporate it.
So this Christmas make a stand, decide that you are going to raise a responsible independent young adult who cares about others and is not just a ‘wanting machine’.

Sarah Newton the UK's Top Teen Coach and a strong advocate for Teen empowerment, personal leadership and development. An ex-police officer, Sarah's life changed when the 15-year-old boy she led to a cell committed suicide because his life wasn't worth living. She dedicated the next nine years of her life working with Teens to discover how to make a difference in the lives of young people who seemed unreachable.