In reorganizing your home to make it a safe environment you will have to focus on consistency. Keep furniture in same place; just move them apart a little bit. Help your loved one maintain a connection with past and familiar faces. Familiar objects such as framed photographs, or a piece of clothing that he likes, will make it easier on him. Use contrast. A person with Alzheimer’s may not be able to distinguish between an off-white door and a beige wall. Make sure you pay attention to flooring and keep it simple. Use flooring that cuts down on glare. If it is too shiny person with Alzheimer’s may think it is wet. You can use carpet to avoid slipping.

Maintaining a safe, secure environment is best for everybody. Not only will it make your loved one physically safe, but it will also give you peace of mind.

The most important thing you have to remember is not to talk “down” to your loved one because he is still a person with an entire life history of success and independence. If you see that what you are trying to do or say to him is not working, just let it go for a while, step out of room and come back later. Let your loved one calm down and relax. You may want to try music. Studies have shown that Alzheimer’s patients often find music relaxing.

Finally, if you still feel overwhelmed, join a support group that specifically deals with verbal abuse and learn how to cope with it. Many times other people in group will have experienced same ordeal with their loved ones. Group members may be able to counsel you on how they coped or dealt with this kind of behavior.

This group will also help you to deal with your emotions and frustrations. They will tell you how to control them, and once you are able to deal with your own feelings, then you will be more effective coping with your loved one’s behavior.